I’ll never understand why others believe doing what’s best for yourself is selfish. Are we so caught up in life that we believe others are always going to do what’s best for us instead of what’s best for them? It’s already so easy to put the desires of others in front of our own just to keep other people happy. I say we stop constantly putting others above ourselves and start making our desires, wants, and feelings a priority.
1. It’s extremely important for your health
Making yourself a priority is necessary for emotional stability, mental state, and physical health. You can literally drive yourself sick worrying about others so much. Worry about yourself instead and work on making you a better person. I realize selfishness is often considered a negative trait, but if your health is being affected from trying to be a people pleaser all the time, it’s time to make some changes.
2. You won’t feel as irritable all the time
Skipping out on meeting your own needs only leads to disaster. You feel upset all the time, you can’t eat, and you can’t sleep. All of this just leads to you being super irritable and annoying for everyone else to be around as well. However, once you take the time to focus on yourself, this irritableness will fade away. You’ll be happier with your life and with yourself, and also more for enjoyable for others to be around.
3. You’ll actually be able to say “No”
Life isn’t about being a “Yes Man” all the time. Sometimes you just have to say no for your own well-being. If people truly care about you, they won’t get mad when you say no. I realize it is difficult saying no sometimes, but it’s extremely important to learn to say it. If you always say yes, you begin to take on more than you can handle, stress yourself out, and do things you may rather not do. In addition, it often means you’re helping others before helping yourself, which is neglectful to you. Learn to say no and don’t feel bad about it.
4. Your relationships will become healthier
The fact is that if you’re not leading a healthy lifestyle, you’re not going to be able to maintain healthy relationships either. If you take the time to put your own needs first for a while, you’ll become happier with your life, which will then lead to happier relationships. Two people who both lead happy and independent lifestyles work great together.
5. You’ll start smiling more
We all know that nothing is better than smiling, laughing, and just having a great time. In addition, you’re most helpful to the world when you’re smiling. Not only will you feel better, but you’ll also brighten the days of those around you. We all need to take the time to be truly happy and do the things that make us happiest in life. You’re also going to be able to help out others better if you’ve taken the time to make yourself happy, too.
Now obviously I am not telling you to become a self-absorbed human being. It is still very important to be there for other people as well, just don’t feel like their happiness is completely dependent on you. Only you can make yourself truly happy, so please take the time to do so.
