I do not find today’s hook up culture appealing. If people want have one-night stands or just hook up with people then that’s fine, but I find it pointless. Sleeping with a different person every time you go out is not something I find valuable. I’d rather have a serious relationship and have a person who loves me, not a person who I just hook up with. Hooking up may be something other people like, but I’ve never been the type to want something that is not serious. Here are a few reasons why I don't like today's hook up culture:
1. Hooking up usually ends up being a mistake.
A lot of people I know have ended up regretting hooking up. It usually happens when people are out and drinking--drinking affects your judgment--so you tend to do things you wouldn’t do if you were sober. Last-minute hook-ups are something you will always regret because either you barely knew the person’s name, or you don’t even remember who the person you hooked up was.
2. Hook-ups are usually not very well-thought-out (they happen in the spur of the moment).
Hook-ups usually happen unexpectedly. Usually you don’t think about it before you do it--you usually just do it without thinking. You meet someone cute and you flirt with them then you end up kissing and maybe sleeping together. The person you end up hooking up with is either an acquaintance or someone you barely talk to.
3. You end up regretting it the next day.
The morning after a crazy night out usually end with regret. Regret of hooking up with a person you barely knew and the regret of drinking too much. Sleeping with someone you don’t know is one of the negatives of drinking too much. You end up not making the right decisions because you are too intoxicated.
4. You can sometimes develop feelings for the person you slept with (but they do not feel the same).
Sleeping with someone you don’t know can be very regrettable because some people will start to develop feelings. Having feelings for someone after sleeping with them happens to a lot of people. Usually people who just want to hook up do not grow feelings for you after just one night with you, which is why I do not agree with hook-ups. If you develop feelings for someone who used you to hook up with, and they don’t feel the same way, then you get hurt. Being hurt is not worth all of the hook ups in the world.
5. Paranoia about gossip.
After hooking up with someone, you get worried about gossip. The problem I have with hook-ups is that people gossip about people they barely know. They whisper about seeing a guy and a girl leave together, they say that it’s gross that they hooked up, or they just state things about those people that aren’t true. Gossip is one of the biggest problems I have with today’s hook-up culture because gossip happens after every single party you go to, and guess what? At almost every single party there is hook ups, so usually the hook-ups are always gossiped about.
