This is a letter to the guys who treat their girlfriends like crap because they think they can because they're "the man." I have had really close friends who have been hurt so badly by their boyfriends, and that friend thought it was all their fault and that they should have been better. But, it's not their fault.

1. Why?

Why did you hurt my friend so badly? Why did you treat her like you did? Why did you think it was acceptable to treat anyone this way? No one should ever be emotionally, physically, or verbally abused in any situation. My friend may not have been perfect, but who in the world are you?

2. What is your standard of love?

If thinking that treating your lady like crap because it's "macho" or whatever is okay, what successful marriage have you seen in which this happens? Does the word "love" have meaning to you at all?

3. Was there abuse in your home?

Abuse is not something to be taken lightly. I've personally haven't had any experience with abuse, but I do know that it occurs a lot more often than we think. Many are too afraid to come out and say anything. Many don't even realize that they are being abused because it's the norm in their relationships. But, this should not be the norm at all.

4. Do you realize what you've done to her?

I've seen her cry and cry and cry because of you. She will always have a reminder of what you've done every time she talks to another guy or is in a new relationship. She will be guarded for a very long time because she doesn't want it to happen again.

5. Can you please take some time to yourself before you go and do this again to someone else?

Seriously, get some help. Go see a therapist, or talk it out with someone you trust. The cycle of abuse will continue until you decide to do something to stop it.