Growing up I had the idea that your best friend should be the person you've been friends with the longest; no matter the circumstances they've earned that title because the length of time you've known a person is far greater than what they had to offer. This idea of mine was short lived. As I grew older my circle of friends grew smaller, my friendship with someone whom I thought I would be friends with today ended before high school and I learned that not everyone deserved to be given the titles "friend" and more importantly "best friend."
Today, as a young adult I've gathered that as you evolve so will the people you choose to surround yourself with. Most of my friendships are fairly new with the exception of my best friend of 14 years. No, we have not remained best friends because of how long we've known each other but simply because we understand one another. Of course we've had bumps in the road and have gone weeks without speaking to one another, but our honesty, support and genuine care for one another has kept our friendship running.
Through my own experience and from observing the friendships of others, I've learned the top five qualities of a best friend:
1. Sister from another mister
You favor one another mentally and physically so much so people often ask "are you two sisters?" I'm not saying that if you aren't asked this question then your friendship isn't real, but the more in sync you become with one another the easier it is for others to see your similarities. Like sisters, disagreements will occur but you're comfortable enough with one another to fix these disagreements instead of sweeping it under the rug.
2. Dependable
You depend on one another to have each other's back through thick and thin. She will defend you when you are present and not present and listens to your problems no matter how minor they may be.
3. Honest
Honesty is the best policy. If you cannot be honest with your best friend then that's misfortunate. Never be a "yes" person, someone who agrees with everything because they are afraid to say the truth. If your best friend is in the wrong, tell her. If you don't agree with her choices whether it is in regards to her social life, relationships or her overall well being, tell her. If she takes your advice that's awesome and if not well at least you were honest. In the end, your best friend will appreciate you more for telling the truth rather than a lie.
4. Genuine (positive energy)
If you cannot have fun or act goofy with your best friend in fear of being judged, then you should not be best friends. If no one else knows your carefree side, your best friend definitely should. A friendship should not be forced, stressful and both parties should give 50/50.
5. Supportive
Your best friend is your support system. She should encourage you to follow your heart's desire and accomplish your goals. Your best friend should be present because she wants to be, not because she feels obligated to. She should be there throughout your achievements--not only when you need a shoulder to cry on. You should be genuinely happy for one another.
