5 People You Need To Forgive

5 People You Need To Forgive

Not only does it better yourself, but our society as well.

Forgiveness is one of those things that is so simple, yet so hard at the same time. We hang on so much to the bad aspects of something that we forget to recognize the good. Yes, it can be hard, but we need to forgive in order to make not just our lives better, but in turn the world a much better and more peaceful place. There are plenty of people we should forgive, but here are five key people that we need to forgive.

1. Parents

You might get mad at them from time to time, but at the end of the day, they are some of the most important people in your life. There a lot of people who might do you wrong, but your parents are the ones who will always be there for you no matter what. You may feel like they aren't being fair about something, but they really are just trying to do what they think is best for you. You also need to realize that they are learning how to be parents every day. Our society and yourself are constantly changing and your parents are just trying to catch up. Give them a break and don't ever let them out of your life.

2. Ex-boyfriends/girlfriends

This one can always be hard to forgive, but it's something that needs to be done. Whether it was you that broke up with them or them who broke up with you, it makes no difference. Although things didn't work out, at one point they made you so happy. Especially if it was your first love, they taught you how to love and all of the other things you need to know about to have a healthy relationship. Yes, it didn't work out, but all that means is that it just wasn't meant to be and that neither of you are at fault. Just because it didn't work out with them doesn't mean that you need to resent them and never speak to them. You need to learn how to be civil with them or even become friends with them again. But most importantly, you need to be happy for them when something good happens to them rather than hoping for negative outcomes.

3. Ex-best friends

Sometimes this one can be even harder than forgiving the ex-boyfriend/girlfriend because this one you really didn't see coming. I mean there's even a saying that says you may not always be with that boyfriend/girlfriend, but best friends are forever. Unfortunately, it's possible to lose a best friend. No matter what happened, you need to forgive them because you shouldn't let silly arguments from the past end your friendship. At the time, these arguments seemed unforgivable, but when you look back now they may not be that way. I'm not saying you should become best friends again right away, but you should be able to let them come back into your life. They were a best friend for a reason.

4. Anyone you feel has done you wrong

This can be a large variety of people because you don't have to be close to a person in order to forgive them. This can go from someone who spread a rumor about you, a hard professor that gave you a bad grade or a person who beat you in a sporting event. We have this negative mindset that when someone does you wrong, even in the smallest way, we automatically have a disliking toward them. We should not have all this negativity and rather should bring about positivity. That person who spread a rumor about you might have insecurity issues and although it was wrong, it made them feel better. The tough professor who gave you a bad grade was just doing their job and they are pushing you to try harder because they know you're capable of doing more. And lastly, just because someone beat you in something doesn't mean you should dislike them now. You should congratulate them and strive to do better next time. Stop bringing about these negative outlooks on life.

5. Yourself

This is one is hardest to forgive. We are so nit-picky about ourselves that we tend to always bash on ourselves for even the simplest things. Especially in today's society, we feel this need to be a certain type of person or do a certain type of thing in order to fit with society. But honestly, the best version of yourself is when you truly are being yourself. So stop apologizing for being who you are because there is nothing wrong with that. Along those lines, you need to forgive yourself for all the things you think are wrong about you or what you did. Nobody is perfect. Life is about making mistakes, learning from them and moving on. Stop bringing about such a negative view of yourself and start loving yourself and who you are.

If you look at our world today, there are a lot of good things about it, but also some negative things. The negative has a lot to do with people not forgiving each other. For example, there probably wouldn't be so much war if we would just learn to forgive and correct our mistakes. People go on in this world not having the guts or effort to forgive each other, but our world could be so different if we'd just learn to forgive and forget. Just by starting to forgive people or yourself for the little things can make a huge impact. Let's stop letting all of this negativity surround us and rather bring about positivity and forgiveness.

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College As Told By Junie B. Jones

A tribute to the beloved author Barbara Parks.

The Junie B. Jones series was a big part of my childhood. They were the first chapter books I ever read. On car trips, my mother would entertain my sister and me by purchasing a new Junie B. Jones book and reading it to us. My favorite part about the books then, and still, are how funny they are. Junie B. takes things very literally, and her (mis)adventures are hilarious. A lot of children's authors tend to write for children and parents in their books to keep the attention of both parties. Barbara Park, the author of the Junie B. Jones series, did just that. This is why many things Junie B. said in Kindergarten could be applied to her experiences in college, as shown here.

When Junie B. introduces herself hundreds of times during orientation week:

“My name is Junie B. Jones. The B stands for Beatrice. Except I don't like Beatrice. I just like B and that's all." (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 1)

When she goes to her first college career fair:

"Yeah, only guess what? I never even heard of that dumb word careers before. And so I won't know what the heck we're talking about." (Junie B. Jones and her Big Fat Mouth, p. 2)

When she thinks people in class are gossiping about her:

“They whispered to each other for a real long time. Also, they kept looking at me. And they wouldn't even stop." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 66)

When someone asks her about the library:

“It's where the books are. And guess what? Books are my very favorite things in the whole world!" (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 27)

When she doesn't know what she's eating at the caf:

“I peeked inside the bread. I stared and stared for a real long time. 'Cause I didn't actually recognize the meat, that's why. Finally, I ate it anyway. It was tasty...whatever it was." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 66)

When she gets bored during class:

“I drew a sausage patty on my arm. Only that wasn't even an assignment." (Junie B. Jones Loves Handsome Warren, p. 18)

When she considers dropping out:

“Maybe someday I will just be the Boss of Cookies instead!" (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 76)

When her friends invite her to the lake for Labor Day:

“GOOD NEWS! I CAN COME TO THE LAKE WITH YOU, I BELIEVE!" (Junie B. Jones Smells Something Fishy, p. 17)

When her professor never enters grades on time:

“I rolled my eyes way up to the sky." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 38)

When her friends won't stop poking her on Facebook:

“Do not poke me one more time, and I mean it." (Junie B. Jones Smells Something Fishy, p. 7)

When she finds out she got a bad test grade:

“Then my eyes got a little bit wet. I wasn't crying, though." (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 17)

When she isn't allowed to have a pet on campus but really wants one:


When she has to walk across campus in the dark:

“There's no such thing as monsters. There's no such thing as monsters." (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed, p. 12)

When her boyfriend breaks her heart:

“I am a bachelorette. A bachelorette is when your boyfriend named Ricardo dumps you at recess. Only I wasn't actually expecting that terrible trouble." (Junie B. Jones Is (almost) a Flower Girl, p. 1)

When she paints her first canvas:

"And painting is the funnest thing I love!" (Junie B. Jones and her Big Fat Mouth, p. 61)

When her sorority takes stacked pictures:

“The biggie kids stand in the back. And the shortie kids stand in the front. I am a shortie kid. Only that is nothing to be ashamed of." (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed, p. 7)

When she's had enough of the caf's food:

“Want to bake a lemon pie? A lemon pie would be fun, don't you think?" (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed p. 34)

When she forgets about an exam:

“Speechless is when your mouth can't speech." (Junie B. Jones Loves Handsome Warren, p. 54)

When she finds out she has enough credits to graduate:

“A DIPLOMA! A DIPLOMA! I WILL LOVE A DIPLOMA!" (Junie B. Jones is a Graduation Girl p. 6)

When she gets home from college:

"IT'S ME! IT'S JUNIE B. JONES! I'M HOME FROM MY SCHOOL!" (Junie B. Jones and some Sneaky Peaky Spying p. 20)

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How To Know That You're In A New York State Of Mind

"New York is the city that other cities can only dream of being."


A New York State of Mind does not mean you reside in the city, it is a way of life that you live, in which only some people can handle. Here's how to know if you are in a New York State of Mind.

You've got goals, baby.

Setting your mind on your goals, knowing that you'll achieve them is the number one step. You'll do anything to pursue your goals, which is what any good New Yorker would do.

You're not afraid to be alone.

New York is one of the largest cities in the world, which might make it one of the most lonely. Being okay with being alone is a trait only some can hold.

You keep life moving at a fast pace.

You want to do things, and you want them now. Like the queen Ariana Grande says, "I want it, I got it."

You are accepting of all people.

People are people, and everyone deserves the same love as one another, and if you're in a New York State of Mind, you know that.

You know that failure is not an option.

If you fail at something, you don't just quit and give up, you simply find a new, and better way to do that task.

You stay authentic to yourself.

You know who you are, you don't need to prove yourself to anyone. If they appreciate you and want you in their corner, they should make that clear to you.

You have a plan for everything.

You are prepared for whatever is it that is coming at you.

You know the sky isn't the limit, because you're reaching for the stars.

People will think you're crazy, or your dreams are too big. If you're in the right state of mind, you simply ignore them. There's no point in dwelling on other people's thoughts, when you know what you want.

Possessing these personality traits, shows that you are in fact in a New York State of Mind. If you are, you're a bad ass who knows who you are and what you want, and you'll get it, no matter what obstacles life throws your way.

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