5 Challenges of Invisible Disability

5 Challenges of Invisible Disability

There's nothing wrong with you.. right?

Being disabled sucks. The thing is, being invisibly disabled has its own challenges that visibly disabled people don't face. And the thing is, that is carried with us - we don't want to be judged. We don't want to be disbelieved. It's especially not fun to be invisibly disabled for a few reasons.

1. You're always questioning if you should really use a thing/service.

The thought is always in the back of your head to not use a service or item because what you have "isn't that bad", even though it can render you sick and fatigued if you don't use it. You're consciously always comparing yourself to the people who are visibly disabled and sometimes even wondering if you're just simply doubting your own ability. You know that's not true, and what you're thinking is utterly wrong, but you can't help but start to internalize the judgement you so often get from other people.

2. Other people will constantly look at you.

Yes. They will see that you aren't obviously disabled or sick and judge you for it. Anytime you do use a service, there's someone staring you down giving you the stink eye, leaving you a passive aggressive note, etc etc. It presents a new set of challenges because, well, society doesn't want to believe you. Nobody wants to think that it's real. You know it's real, but so many others are just quietly watching and judging. People will abuse everything in this world - don't judge the people who need it and just don't simply fit your criteria.

3. You always have to explain it.

What is that? What does it do? Etc etc. Most of the time, we don't mind explaining, it just can be scary because you can be asked terribly insensitive questions. I won't go into detail what those are - I'll leave that to your imagination or let YouTube take over. Just give a quick search of "Shit Not to Say to Disabled People".

4. Dating is horrifying.

When do I say it? When do I not? Should I date? Is this even worth it? What is life? You can't say too soon or too late. It's a balancing act. Will they freak out? Will I freak them out?

5. Letting in the good ones.

Whether it be friend, family, or a lover, letting your guard down is horrifying. They need to see you on a bad day, when you feel your worst. They need see the stark contrast between "feeling good" you and "feeling bad" you. They need to learn your quirks and what triggers the disorder. There's a lot to learn.

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50 Things To Be Happy About

It's the little things in life.

It is always easier to pick out the negatives in life. We tend to dwell on them and drown out the happy moments. I asked a friend to tell me something that made them happy. They sarcastically laughed at my question then thought about it for a minute. Nothing. But they could easily come up with things that made them unhappy. Then I read them my list, and they were smiling and laughing in agreement the whole time. There are so many more things to be happy and laugh about than we realize. After all- it's the little things in life that can mean the most! Here are 50 things that make me happy. What are your 50?

  1. The first warm day of the year
  2. Laughing so hard your abs ache
  3. Freshly washed sheets
  4. Looking through old pictures
  5. The smell of a coffee shop
  6. Eating cookie dough
  7. Reading a bible verse that perfectly fits your current situation
  8. Seeing someone open a gift you got them
  9. Eating birthday cake
  10. A shower after a long day
  11. Marking something off your to-do list
  12. Drinking ice cold water on a really hot day
  13. Dressing up for no reason
  14. Breakfast food
  15. Being able to lay in bed in the morning
  16. Finding something you love at the store
  17. And it’s on sale
  18. Cute elderly couples
  19. When a stranger compliments you
  20. Getting butterflies in your stomach
  21. Taking a nap
  22. Cooking something delicious
  23. Being lost for words
  24. Receiving a birthday card in the mail
  25. And there's money in it
  26. Finally cleaning your room
  27. Realizing how fortunate you are
  28. Waking up from a nightmare and realizing it wasn't real
  29. Fresh fruit
  30. Walking barefoot in the grass
  31. Singing along to a song in the car
  32. Sunrises
  33. Sunsets
  34. Freshly baked cookies with a glass of milk
  35. Summertime cookouts
  36. Feeling pretty
  37. Looking forward to something
  38. Lemonade
  39. Comfortable silences
  40. Waking up in the middle of the night and realizing you have more time to sleep
  41. Surviving another school year
  42. The cold side of the pillow
  43. The smell of popcorn
  44. Remembering something funny that happened
  45. Laughing to yourself about it
  46. Feeling weird about laughing to yourself
  47. Printed photographs
  48. Wearing a new outfit
  49. The sound of an ice cream truck
  50. Feeling confident
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A poem that reminds you that you're not alone.


Some days,

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you find yourself chugging a cup of coffee.

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Some days,

This is just how it goes

You are not alone.

Some days,

You awake to the beautiful sound of birds

Chirping outside your window

The sun sneaks its way into your room

A smile creeps across your face as you realize you are awake to see a new day

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You read a few pages of your favorite book

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Before you know it you've worked an entire day

Your job is done

As you pull into your driveway,

you take a few breaths

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Some days,

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