It took me a long time to really understand that happiness and wholeness is two different things. You can be happy with your looks and not whole your inner self. Happiness comes and goes through our life we all have moments of happiness little sparks that make us feel great but how many of us go home after a great day and think why can’t it be like that all the time why can’t I truly be happy with my life like I was today. It’s not special moments or friends or having a great day that make us whole those are moments of happiness. Being whole with yourself comes from the acceptance of all the parts that make you who you are. Here are 4 simple ways to practice this.

1.) Spending Quality time with yourself. Enjoy being alone stop thinking you need someone to spend time. After years of constantly feeling lonely or like I wasn’t good enough for anyone because I was always there for all my “friends” when they needed me but nobody was there for me I realized that I was my own worst enemy. It was me allowing myself to be to available and open for people that made me feel so lonely and stressed. Now I truly enjoy my own company. I don’t need a boyfriend or man to watch movies with, I don’t need a gym buddy to motivate me to go, I don’t need friends to go do stuff with. I’m content with doing all these by myself and no longer feel like I need someone by my side with me.

2.) Find something that centers you.

Every day find something that brings you peace through out your day. It can be yoga, writing, art, dancing, prayer, meditation, are all examples of what you can do to check in with yourself and find your peace and focus for the day.

3.) Make a mental checklist of where you are right now. Explore your mind

Body: Am I satisfied with the ways I nourish myself? Can I make better eating and drinking habits? Examination of your body can help you determine if you need to make better choices for nutrition, exercise for strength, your cardiac and heart health,

Mind: Am I feeling Interested, challenged, Am I growing?
Am i coping with my current battles? Am I feeling one emotion or am I currently feeling a flow of different emotions? How do I balance?

Social: Am I happy with the friends I have right now? Are they bringing my up or are they keeping me down. Who’s working out in your life and who needs to be removed?

4.) Appreciate yourself and be proud of yourself.

Ask yourself about your victories! Acknowledge that you did something brave, something hard, something kind, or something smart. Allow yourself to feel gratitude.