OK, ladies. So you've been having your eye on a certain guy for a while now, but you're just too afraid to talk to him, but why? You're afraid you'll get turned down? You think he's out of your league? First of all, nobody is ever out of your league! You are beautiful, so don't think for one second that a guy is going to think you're weird just because you started a little conversation with him. He actually should feel flattered that a lady like yourself took the initiative to start the conversation with him. Many women feel that it's awkward to approach a guy because the guy is "supposed" to approach the girl. It's 2016, who says a woman can't approach a man? Besides, it's just conversation. You're not telling the guy you love him and want to have kids by him! A little conversation never hurts anyone, especially when it could lead to something more than just a friendship. Here are the reasons why you should approach a guy, even if you're afraid to at first:
1. You may get the answer you were looking for, A.K.A. "single."
You don't know if he's single or not unless you start a conversation with him. You can't just assume he's taken just because he's an attractive guy. Even the hot guys are single. #LeonardoDiCaprio
2. He actually may not be the man you "dreamed" he would be.
Guys show who they really are once you have a conversation with them. Just because you've been eyeing him across the coffee shop for a month now and he "seems" like a nice guy doesn't mean he's actually a nice guy. Everything that glitters is not gold! So instead of wasting your time thinking one thing, just approach him and see if he's what you thought he'd be. And if not, move on!
3. He had his eye on you, too.
All that time you thought Is he looking at me? He just looked at me! Wait, no it's all in my head. I'm crazy. Turns out, you may not be! You're not giving yourself enough credit. You're beautiful, so why can't he be looking at you, too? Give him a little grin or wink while he's staring.
4. It's empowering.
It takes a lot to approach a guy that is a complete stranger, but when you do it, you feel your chest sticking out for the act you just made. Even if it's a little awkward at first, after, you can get a good laugh with your girl friends. It's almost as if you've got this weight lifted off of your shoulders. Also it makes it easier for the next time that you see the guy, you guys know each other now! In addition, if that relationship doesn't seem to work out, you know that next time you'll be able to do it to the next hot guy you see.
As women, we are so hard on ourselves and we always think that we aren't good enough. I'm here to tell you we are! You never know until you try. So what if you get rejected. So what if he turns out to be a jerk. So what if it doesn't work out, because it's always that small chance that it will. When you start a conversation, I'm not advising to confess your love for this man. It can just be simple as, "Hey, what's your name? I always see you when I'm here," or, "I really like that hat you're wearing, where'd you get it?" Something simple, you don't want to seem crazy! Just be you and see where it goes.
