Being single is an adventure and a half and I consider myself an expert in the art that is being single. To be honest, being single isn't all that bad, but it's also not that great. Here are some pros and cons to being single.
Pro #1: You can do whatever you want
You don't have to answer to anybody or worry about getting caught, because you're a free bird and can do whatever the heck you want. You wanna go to that party? You do you, homie. A group of friends going to the mall? Go with them (just don't spend all your money).
Con #1: You find yourself alone quite often
This is the most noticeable at night or when you have no plans. I often find myself (personally) wondering how it feel to not be alone at certain times. The trick is to distract yourself with something you enjoy doing. Like reading a book, writing a poem, binge watching your favorite show while eating an entire tub of ice cream, things like that.
Pro #2: You can talk to anyone you want
See a cute guy/girl in one of your classes? Grow a pair and go talk to them. Why? Because you can. You don't have to feel guilty talking to or hanging out with someone because you have nothing to worry about. No worrying about getting caught or accused of cheating, which rocks if you're like me and worry 24/7.
Con #2: Seeing happy couples makes you sad
I mean, you're happy for them, but you wish you had what they did. At least I do. Couples sometimes give me the feeling that I'm very alone, which I already knew, but I didn't need a reminder. That's why you adopt a cat and spend all your time with the cat, you feel less alone.
Pro #3: You can go out to dinner and spend less than $20
Unless you're me and order $40 worth of Domino's on New Year's Eve. Anyway, going out to eat with another person can get expensive, just ask my dad. Dining for one isn't as expensive and you get dessert! Who wouldn't want that?
Con #3: When you dine alone, you get pity looks
I get these ALL THE TIME. I honestly don't mind eating alone, but I do mind when people give me sad looks because I'm eating alone. First of all, it's not my fault no one wants to eat with me and second of all, your sad look isn't make me feel any better. It does make me kind of sad because all these people are eating with other people and I'm not, but I get over it.
Pro #4: You can focus on yourself and making yourself a better person
This has been really important to me in my life. I take every experience that has ever happened to make me brutally single and put towards making myself a better person and actually loving myself. As RuPaul says, "If you can't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else, can I get an amen up in here?"
Con #4: You miss out on doing couple-y things
You can totally do the couple-y things on your own, that's up to you. It's just not as fun when you're alone. I never really did the "couple-y" things when I was in a relationship, but it was still nice to have someone to adventure with you, even if you were just going to Biddeford to get Starbucks.
