Three things I want to say to my old best friend.

We all have that friend we wish we had stayed in contact with. The one who you just assumed was your forever best friend. A bond so strong that even Iron man cannot break it. Unfortunately, these things happen. You go from talking every day, to talking once a week. Then shortly after he or she has a life changing event. These events include: getting a new job, moving to a new city, switching partners, and the worst, he or she getting a new friend.

Let me tell you about my previous best friend. She introduced me to profanity. She taught me how to dye my hair. She actually taught me how to cook. But I still suck at cooking, and I still suck at dying my hair. I learned profanity rather quickly. The first time I met her, I knew I loved her as a being. She was tan, and had long brown hair. The kind that a Native American has, like Pocahontas or something. She listened to music in a different generation. She was the type of friend, that the longer you knew her the more a part of her family you became.

• The first thing I would like to say to her is I forgive you... It’s okay that you left me when I needed you. It’s okay that you shut down. If I had gone through what you had to go through at such a young age, I would shut down too.
  
  
  
  
  
  
• Secondly, tell your mom and dad that I love them, I miss them, and think about them often. I missed going to that family birthday party again. I’m sorry, I didn’t know how to act around you.
  
  
  
  
  
  
• Thirdly, it’s not just your fault. It’s mine too. I should have tried harder. You deserve a better friend than me. Someone who is going to fight for you and not give up. We all hit that chapter of our lives when we just want to give up.

The strength of the matter is to not give up. If you feel a friend is slipping away, send them a card. Give them a call. Tag them in something on Facebook. Just don’t give up. Learn from my mistake. If I could start over with her, I would stay closer. I wouldn’t have ignored her for other people. And I certainly would let her know that it’s not her fault the life event that she went through. It’s not her fault.