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21 Things I taught myself before 21 that made me a stronger person

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Amelia Thomas

Jul 01, 2018

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21 Things I taught myself before 21 that made me a stronger person

Amelia Thomas

I just recently turned 21 and as soon as I did people started asking me about things I had learned or what it felt like. Honestly, everything felt the same as it always had and I didn't think I had really learned anything, but I've started to reflect and there's a lot of things I learned on my own that I wish someone would have told me. Here's the 21 things I taught myself.

1. Be okay with people leaving.

People leave a lot and often. At first it would destroy me, but as time went on I realized there's a season for everything and not all season should last forever.

2. Social media does not define you.

Just like everyone, I love a lot of likes. I love the notifications popping up on my phone and just watching the number go up and up, but as I've gotten older I know that those likes don't define who I am and they never will.

3. You don't need Snapchat to talk to your friends.

This is a new one, but I deleted my Snapchat because I was on it all the time. Like really all of the time. I thought that was the only way I was able to talk to people, but as soon as I deleted it I realized that the people who want to talk to you will talk to you, just make sure you talk to them first.

4. Give yourself time to recover.

Heartbreak, bad grade, parking ticket, tough day, no matter what it is take time to recover and regroup.

5. Appreciate the small things.

Get excited about a new pair of socks or making someone laugh. Don't let the big things be the only things you care about.

6. Call your family.

Mainly Facetime, but really don't just not talk to them.

7. Don't worry about what you wear.

There is someone out there who will appreciate your outfit the way that you do, but if not don't stress about it. If you like it, wear it.

8. Don't spend money on things that are irrelevant.

Save your money and if you need it find a place you can get it for less.

9. It's okay to quit what you love.

Again, there's a season for everything and some seasons don't last forever. If you love something, but feel like you don't need to do it anymore then quit.

10. Tell people you love them.

Honestly, if you love someone then just tell them. Even if it's weird for them don't worry about it, just be honest.

11. Feel free to graduate early.

If you can and you want to just do it. Don't worry about missing the "best time of your life" because it probably isn't, but it might be.

12. Love more and love well.

Take time to listen to people, care for people, and do more.

13. You honestly do not have to wear makeup.

It's been like 6 months since I put makeup on and I'm going to be honest it's freeing. My skin is happy and healthy and I can live all my makeup dreams through my friends who actually know how to put makeup on.

14. Life can actually be terrible.

It's not all sunshine and rainbows around here.

15. Life can also be really great.

Sometimes you get a glimpse of true joy in the moments you spend walking to class, laughing with your friends, and just all the little things.

16. Make quality friends.

It's going to take awhile, but really put yourself out there and talk to the people you think you'd click with because they might actually become your clique.

17. Skip class.

If you really need to do it, obviously go to class a majority of the time but don't force something that can't happen.

18. Just let things happen.

You cannot plan your whole life and you can't always be in control. Accept that and enjoy it.

19. You need to fail.

Trust me on this one, you really need to mess up in order to thrive.

20. Spend time with good people.

You don't have to be their best friend, but being around good people will encourage you to be a good person.

21. Invest in your roots.

If there's something going on with you emotionally really take the time to work it out. Do what you have to do to nourish yourself in the best ways possible.

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21 Things I taught myself before 21 that made me a stronger person

Sometimes you gotta delete the app.

1. Be okay with people leaving.

2. Social media does not define you.

3. You don't need Snapchat to talk to your friends.

4. Give yourself time to recover.

5. Appreciate the small things.

6. Call your family.

7. Don't worry about what you wear.

8. Don't spend money on things that are irrelevant.

9. It's okay to quit what you love.

10. Tell people you love them.

11. Feel free to graduate early.

12. Love more and love well.

13. You honestly do not have to wear makeup.

14. Life can actually be terrible.

15. Life can also be really great.

16. Make quality friends.

17. Skip class.

18. Just let things happen.

19. You need to fail.

20. Spend time with good people.

21. Invest in your roots.

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The Best Lines from the Fab Four

And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make

The sun is up, the sky is blue, it's beautiful and so are you

Love is old, love is new, love is all, love is you

There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be

Life is very short, and there's no time for fussing and fighting, my friend

He say, "I know you, you know me", One thing I can tell you is you got to be free

Oh please, say to me, You'll let me be your man. And please say to me, You'll let me hold your hand

It was twenty years ago today, Sgt. Pepper taught the band to play. They've been going in and out of style, but they're guaranteed to raise a smile

Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see

Can you hear me? When it rains and shine, it's just a state of mind

Little darling, it's been long cold lonely winter. Little darling, it feels like years since it' s been here. Here comes the sun, Here comes the sun, and I say it's alright

We danced through the night and we held each other tight, and before too long I fell in love with her. Now, I'll never dance with another when I saw her standing there

I love you, I love you, I love you, that's all I want to say

You say you want a revolution. Well you know, we all want to change the world

All the lonely people, where do they all come from. All the lonely people, where do they all belong

Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends

Hey Jude, don't make it bad. Take a sad song and make it better

Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away. Now it looks as though they're here to stay. Oh, I believe in yesterday

And when the brokenhearted people, living in the world agree, there will be an answer, let it be.

And anytime you feel the pain, Hey Jude, refrain. Don't carry the world upon your shoulders

I'll give you all I got to give if you say you'll love me too. I may not have a lot to give but what I got I'll give to you. I don't care too much for money. Money can't buy me love

All you need is love, love is all you need

Whisper words of wisdom, let it be

Blackbird singing in the dead of night, Take these broken wings and learn to fly. All your life, You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Though I know I'll never lose affection, for people and things that went before. I know I'll often stop and think about them. In my life, I love you more

Obviously the best superpower.

There have been many lessons learned.

1. The importance of traditions.

2. How to be thankful for family and friends.

3. How to give back.

4. What the word "community" really means.

5. That it isn't about the destination, but the journey.

6. The consequences of making bad choices.

7. To trust people, until you have a reason not to.

8. To be welcoming and accepting of everyone.

9. How to be my own, individual person.

10. How to work for what I want.

11. How to be great at giving directions.

12. How to be humble.

13. To be well-rounded.

14. How to be great at conflict resolution.

15. The beauty of getting outside and exploring.

16. To be prepared for anything.

17. That you don't always have to do it alone.

18. How to be creative.

19. To brush off gossip.

I have never been so thankful to know you.

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

Don't freak out

Email the professor

Attend the first class

Keep attending class

Have a backup plan

Remember that everything works out at the end

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