20 Life Lessons I Learned Before I Turned 20

20 Life Lessons I Learned Before I Turned 20

You were right, mom, the world does not revolve around me.
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Throughout the past 20 years, I have learned so much about friendship, life, and working hard. They say the older you are, the wiser you are, so here are 20 of the most important life lessons I have learned throughout my life time.

1. Be the good friend

Be the person that your friend can vent to, rely on, and go to when they need support. It is never a bad thing to be a good friend.

2. Don't over-share on social media

No one needs to know what you are doing every second of every day. Sharing your personal drama over the internet will only draw in unwanted attention.

3. Not everything is about you

You were right, mom, the world does not revolve around me.

4. Be nice to everyone, especially those who are working in retail

From someone who has had over three years of retail experience, I can tell you that simply being nice can make everyone's life a little easier. Every other person in retail is just trying to make it through their shift without being yelled at by irate customers.

5. You will learn so much from your high school jobs

I have had a job since I was thirteen years old. I started by being a hockey referee, babysitting, working in retail, and finding odd jobs to make a little extra cash during college. From all of these positions I have gained time management and communication skills and I have become a more independent person by having my own money.

6. High school was not the "best days of your life"


I feel sorry for everyone that peaked in high school.

7. Eat the pizza/cake/chocolate/etc.

Everything will even out eventually.

8. Sometimes the best of friendships can come from weird situations

I met one of my best friends at the beginning of my sophomore year of high school at a church retreat because we were the only two that didn't know anyone else there. We ended up staying in the same room together and are still great friends. I met another best friend of mine by simply waving to her on move in day of our freshman year of college. It's funny how some things work out.

9. It is okay, and sometimes necessary, to cut certain people out of your life

I wish I had learned this sooner, but you should never feel bad about cutting toxic people out of your life. Remember: friends are suppose to make you feel good about yourself.

10. Some of the best memories are made by staying up late

Whether you're talking with friends over late night pizza or getting into trouble. . .

11. Take your education seriously

Education is a privilege and should never be taken for granted. Although not everyone will go to a college or university after high school, we live in a world where you can learn anything over the internet.

12. You don't have to like everyone, but you have to be nice to them

I learned this lesson after not liking a certain girl in my community education gymnastics class in first grade. Turns out, after we were both nice to each other, we found out we had a lot in common and it ended up becoming great friends a few years later.

13. Take lots of pictures

Taking pictures and sharing these memories is easier done now with the use of Instagram and Snapchat. Taking pictures with your friends and family will be something you can look back on at any time in life. Remember: you can't simply Google pictures of you and your friends.

14. Embrace the parts of you that are unique

I remember in middle school wishing that I had stick straight hair because kids made fun of my "crazy" and "uncontrollable" hair. To this day, my hair is one of my favorite features and I hate taking the time to straighten it.

15. Being in a relationship isn't everything

I cherish being single just as much as a appreciate being in a relationship.

16. Drive carefully

You're not invincible on the road, especially when you're 16 years old.

17. Money is important, but it is not everything

Money will always come and go. Being a college student means spending money on things you don't want to spend money on, like textbooks, dishes, and food, but that doesn't mean you can't ever splurge on a gift to yourself every once in awhile.

18. Get out of your comfort zone

When my dad asked me to go fishing this summer, I agreed not knowing what I was getting myself into. If my dad had told me we would be staying in a bunk house and pushing a boat across a muddy portage, I would have been nervous and probably said no, but I am glad I said yes to the opportunity to spend a weekend with my dad, trying new things and being surrounded by nature.

19. Find the humor in every situation

All of those awkward or embarrassing moments turn into the best stories to tell.

20. Take every opportunity

I will never regret hoping on a flight to Colorado on a whim to see a friend five days before I moved into my junior year of college. Buy the concert ticket, watch a movie with friends, go on an adventure, make the memories while you can. You're still young.



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1. “Be young, be dope, be proud.” - Lana Del Rey, "American"

2. “I can’t really see another squad tryna cross us.” - Drake, "No Tellin’"

3. “Darling I’m a nightmare dressed like a daydream.” - Taylor Swift, "Blank Space"

4. “I’m throwin' shade like it’s sunny.” - Nicki Minaj, "Want Some More"

5. “I’m gonna live like tomorrow doesn't exist.” - Sia, "Chandelier"

6. “Find me where the wild things are.” - Alessia Cara, "Wild Things"

7. “If I was you, I'd wanna be me too.” - Meghan Trainor, "Me Too"

8. “Sweet like candy to my soul, sweet you rock and sweet you roll.” - Dave Matthews Band, "Crash Into Me"

9. “I swear this life is like the sweetest thing I’ve ever known.” - Drake, "Over"

10. “I hope you never lose your sense of wonder.” - Lee Ann Womack, "I Hope You Dance"

11. “But if you close your eyes, does it almost feel like nothing’s changed at all? - Bastille, "Pompeii"

12. “You may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one.” - John Lennon, "Imagine"

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14. “She acts like summer and walks like rain.” - Train, "Drops of Jupiter

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16. “Lights will guide you home, and ignite your bones.” - Coldplay, "Fix You"

17. “Say you’ll remember me.” - Taylor Swift, "Wildest Dreams"

18. I’ve got thick skin and an elastic heart.” - Sia, "Elastic Heart"

19. “Give me the beat boys and free my soul.” - Uncle Kracker, "Drift Away"

20. “One of these days the clocks will stop, and time won’t mean a thing.” - Foo Fighters, "These Days"

21. “Sunshine mixed with a little hurricane.” - Brad Paisley, Perfect Storm

22. “You are the piece of me I wish I didn’t need.” Zedd feat. The Foxes, "Clarity"

23. “Her mind is Tiffany twisted, she’s got the Mercedes bends.” - The Eagles, "Hotel California"

24. “Life imitates art.” - Lana Del Rey, "Gods And Monsters"

25. “Nobody said it was easy, no one said it would be this hard.” - Coldplay, "The Scientist"

26. “You’re gonna keep my soul, it was yours to have long ago.” - State Radio, "Keepsake"

27. “Celebrate we will ‘cause life is short but sweet for certain.” - Dave Matthews Band, "Two Step"

28. “It’s always darkest before the dawn.” - Florence + The Machine, "Shake it Out"

29. “There are many things I’d like to say to you but I don’t know how.” - Oasis, "Wonderwall"

30. “You say you want a revolution, well you know we all wanna change the world.” - The Beatles, "Revolution"

31. “God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy.” Billy Currington, "People Are Crazy"

32. “Well my heart is gold, and my hands are cold.” - Halsey, "Gasoline"

33. “I don’t want to be heard, I want to be listened to.” - Twenty One Pilots, "Forest"

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40. “Know yourself, know your worth.” - Drake, "0 to 100"

41. “I’m little but I’m coming for the crown.” - Lorde, "Still Sane"

42. “Didn’t they tell you I was a savage?” - Rihanna, "Needed Me"

43. “Hands in the air like we don’t care.” - Miley Cyrus, "We Can’t Stop"

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In Memory of the Capital gazette five

A tribute to the legacy they left behind.

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It's time to say it. Journalism is the most important yet increasingly dangerous occupation.

By now, many of you have heard about the tragic shooting at the Capital Gazette in Annapolis, Maryland. FIrst, may G-d protect and comfort the mourners. Second, why are journalists targets?

It's no secret that in many foreign countries today the media is the first thing governments and power-hungry individuals seek to control, suppress or eliminate upon their usurping of power. Many countries, like Somalia, Rwanda, Turkey and China, force all journalists to publish only state-approved propaganda. What's worse, they'll jail or kill journalists who stand by their convictions and insist on a free press.

I look at the person who gunned down the five Capital Gazette journalists, two of whom I recognized immediately, as less than this. I see him as nothing more than a spoiled coward. He didn't have the decency to let the court ruling in his failed defamation lawsuit stand. He couldn't put on his big boy pants and deal with his own personal demons. Instead, he took out his anger on people who were hired to do one thing: Write stories about people in their community. Which they did, ethically, efficaciously and timely.

It's been around 225 years since journalists have been targets on these shores to the increasing frequency in the first few decades of this century.

During that turbulent colonial period, dozens of brave souls, including the famous Thomas Payne, journalism was a truly dangerous profession. Those courageous men and women put their lives on the line to expose the abuses of the British monarchy and neighboring business owners who exploited fellow colonists. Like any other authoritarian regime, the British Crown then would go to extreme lengths, including hanging journalists for treason for publishing the truth as they saw it.

In this young century, journalists have to fend off not just a narcissistic president who compares them to a great evil. They also battle one another over the most trivial of political trivialities on a daily basis. Print journalists, in particular, have to carry over their heads the specter of a business a great number of experts say is gasping for monetary air.

This horrific attack on respected and honored defenders of print journalism, in addition, resurrects the age-old question of how free should the press be? Where is the dividing line between keeping journalists safe from harm and leaving our society open to scrutiny and debate? What topics, if any, are to be mandated as "off limits" to journalism?

As I reflect back on the articles written by the Captial Gazette team and many other journalists throughout this country, some of whom I have profound disagreements with for their political rhetoric, my answers are simple. Completely free. Eliminate the dividing line. And, none.

That may sound simple but it's not.

Despite the obvious downside of having a press free to investigate and report on literally anything, it is a necessity. The good outweighs the harm. The knowledge and support their information provides their community, our nation, and the world grants us the freedom to check and balance our government in ways not conceived two-and-a-quarter centuries ago.

On the other hand, as journalists, we must be ever conscious that our world has changed. That, like our foreign counterparts, we have domestic enemies who seek to stop us by every mean at their disposal. Including, may G-d save us, murder.

Carrying these ideas forward, we must also recognize that we must leave no stone unturned. Investigate the new Watergate. Espouse our insane political opinion. Use every fact to our selfish advantage. Or, just as bad, ignore every fact to our selfish advantage.

All of the above force our fellow journalists to keep us honest, ethical and efficacious. But above all, it brings honor to those who are unwittingly thrown into that literal line of fire. It forces us, the survivors and the living, to create a legacy built from their memory. In this way, we can move forward, resolute that we have done our real job: Preserving our history as we live it.

This article is dedicated in memory to the courageous Capital Gazette team who fell in the line of their duty of telling the story. May their work be a source of endless information and inspiration.

In memory of:

Robert Hiaasen

Wendi Winters

John McNamara

Rebecca Smith

Gerald Fischman

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