20 Lessons I've Learned in 20 Years

20 Things I've Learned in 20 Years

I got my inspiration from Taylor Swift's "30 Things I Learned Before Turning 30", except this is 20 things I've learned in 20 years since I've been 20 for a few months now.


My life hasn't been anything too out of the ordinary, but I have definitely had some experiences that have taught me really important lessons about myself and about life.

1. Love yourself

This sounds like the most basic piece of advice that you probably hear all the time, but it is so true. Everyone needs to love themselves so much more in order to be the best version of themselves and to be able to love others as well.

2. Don't be so hard on yourself

It has taken me a while to learn this. Whether it's relating to school, social life, your looks, or anything else. I've learned to give myself a break. I'm not perfect and it's okay to not always live up to your own standards.

3. My mom is my best friend

I've known this for a while, but it has just gotten reinforced as I have gotten older. My mom is the person that I go to for anything and everything. I really don't know what I would do without her.

4. Take risks

Nothing too crazy though. I have always been one to follow the rules and to keep to myself. I have learned that I need to put myself out there more and be a little daring every once in a while. Do things that push you out of your comfort zone.

5. Cherish your grandparents

I am extremely lucky to have grown up with all 4 of my grandparents being extremely involved and present in my life and to still have them all here today. They are so wise and are some of the most incredible people I will ever know. I don't know what I am ever going to do without them.

6. It's okay to take the time and effort to do things for yourself

Sometimes life can get overwhelming and we can get too focused on school and work and we forget to take a step back from it all. It isn't selfish if you feel like you just need some time for yourself or if you do something just because it's what you want to do.

7. Friendship is a 2 way street

You can try and try to spend time with friends and to keep in touch, but if they don't make an effort too then the friendship isn't going to last. If someone wants to be in your life, they will make the effort to.

8. Not everyone has a heart like you

Sometimes people will do things that hurt you or bother you that you think you would never do to someone else. I always have to remind myself that not everyone was raised the same way or has the same heart as you. They might not realize that what they're doing hurts you.

9. Boys aren't worth your tears

Relationships and heartbreak are tough and you're bound to get hurt throughout your life. But no boy is ever worth crying over. If they hurt you, then you need to pick yourself up and move on because if they really cared about you they wouldn't make you feel like that.

10. You never deserve to be treated badly

No matter what you think you did or how badly you think you messed up, you still deserve to not be treated right. Know that you deserve love and respect.

11. Life is too short to hold grudges

People are going to make you mad or upset, it's just a part of life. But holding grudges is only going to bottle up those feelings inside of you and make you feel worse. Forget about it and move on with your life.

12. Don't be afraid to speak your mind

I have always been pretty quiet, but I have learned that I need to stand up for myself and speak my mind. It's okay to be quiet and to be a nice person, but don't let people walk all over you.

13. You can't make everyone happy

I am guilty of too often trying to please everyone. I constantly worry about how what I'm doing is affecting others and whether or not they are happy. Sometimes you have to put your happiness first and realize that you're never going to be able to make everyone happy.

14. Sleep is important

Take care of yourself. For me, it is so much more important that I get sleep than if I spend an extra hour or two doing homework or studying. You need sleep to function the best that you can.

15. Don't let other people's judgements define who you are

People can say what they want about you and how you decide to live your life, but ultimately, it's your life. Don't let what people say about or your decisions define the person that you actually are.

16. Get rid of the drama in your life

Drama just causes so many unnecessary problems and you really don't need that in your life. There is no reason that you should have to deal with anyone else's stupid drama, so don't let it interfere with your life.

17. Learn how to apologize when you mess up

We all mess up, we're all human. You're bound to hurt someone's feelings at some point, whether you mean to or not. Learn how to make sincere apologies so that you can mend relationships that really matter to you.

18. Think things through before you speak or act

There are times in our lives where we are probably going to act out of impulse or act out of emotions and do or say things that we don't really mean. You really have to try to take a step back and think so that you don't do or say something that you will regret.

19. Travel

I love going to and experiencing new places. Whether it's a different state or a different country, take the time and money to travel because it is definitely worth it.

20. Dogs make everything better 

No matter what mood I am in or what day I have had, I know that dogs will make it better. My dogs at home are the loves of my life. Any time I see a dog on campus it makes my day 10 times better. Appreciate dogs because they are angels.

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14 Stages Of Buying Jonas Brothers Concert Tickets As A 20-Something In 2019

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In case you missed it, the Jonas Brothers are back together and, let me tell you, they're giving us some major jams. For those of us who were there when it all began back in 2007 with their first album, It's About Time, this has been one of the most important events of the year. But nothing, and I mean nothing can rival the excitement every twenty-something felt as the Jonas Brothers announced their Happiness Begins tour. I, for one, put my name in for ticket presale, have been following every single social media site related to the tour/group, and, of course, listening to the Jonas Brothers on repeat. And if you did manage to snag tickets, then you know that this is how your brain has been ever since they announced the tour.

1. Finding out that they're going on tour

2. Hopefully entering your name into the lottery to get presale tickets

3. Finding out that you actually get to buy presale tickets

4. Impatiently waiting for your presale tickets by listening to their songs on repeat

5. And remembering how obsessed you used to be (definitely still are) with them

6. Trying to coordinate the squad to go to the concert with you

7. Waiting in the Ticketmaster waiting room...

8. ...And feeling super frantic/frustrated because there are about 2000 people in line in front of you

9. Actually getting into the site to buy the tickets

10. Frantically trying to find seats you can actually pay for because, let's be real, you're twenty-something and poor

11. Managing to actually get the seats you want

12. Joyfully letting your squad know that you've done it

13. Crying a little because all of the dreams you've had since 2007 are coming true

14. Listening to every single Jonas Brothers song on repeat (again)

If you, like me, have finally fulfilled one of your dreams since childhood, then congrats, my friend! We've made it! Honestly, of all the things I've done in my adult life, this might be the one that child me is the most proud of.

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Severus Snape Is The Worst, And Here's Why

Albus Severus, sweetie, I'm so sorry...


I grew up being absolutely obsessed with the Harry Potter franchise. I read the books for the first time in second and third grade, then again in middle school, and for the third time in my last year of high school. Recently, I had a somewhat heated argument with a fellow fan of the books about Severus Snape. As I've reread the Harry Potter books, I've noticed that, although J.K. Rowling tried to give him a redemption arc, he only got worse because of it. Here's why I still think Severus Snape is the absolute worst.

His love for Lily Potter was actually really creepy. When I was younger and reading the books, I always found the fact that he held fast in his love for Lily to be very endearing, even noble. However, rereading it after going through a couple of relationships myself, I've come to realize that the way he pined over her was super creepy. It was understandable during his time at Hogwarts; he was bullied, and she was the only one who "understood" him. However, she showed zero interest, and if that didn't clue him into realizing that he should back off, her involvement with James Potter should have. She was married. He was pining after a married, happy woman. If he truly loved her, he would have realized how happy she was and backed off. Instead, he took it out on her orphan son and wallowed in bitterness and self-pity, which is creepy and extremely uncool. When a girl is kind to a boy during high school (or in this case, wizard school), it's not an open invitation for him to pine for her for the literal rest of his life and romanticizes the absolute @#$% out of her. It's just her being a decent person. Move on, Severus.

He verbally abused teenagers. One of the most shocking examples of this is in The Prisoner of Azkaban when Snape literally told Neville Longbottom that he would kill his beloved toad, Trevor if he got his Shrinking Potion wrong, and then punished him when he managed to make the potion correctly. Furthermore, poor Neville's boggart was literally Snape. The amount of emotional torture Neville must have been enduring from Snape to create this type of debilitating fear must have been almost unbearable, and even if Snape was simply trying to be a "tough" professor, there is no excuse for creating an atmosphere of hostility and fear like he did in his potions class for vulnerable students like Neville. In addition, he ruthlessly tormented Harry (the last living piece of Lily Potter, his supposed "true love," btw), and made fun of Hermione Granger's appearance. Sure, he might have had a terrible life. However, it's simply a mark of poor character to take it out on others, especially when the people you take it out on are your vulnerable students who have no power to stand up to you. Grow up.

He willingly joined a terrorist group and helped them perform genocide and reign over the wizarding world with terror tactics for a couple of decades. No explanation needed as to why this is terrible.

Despite the constant romanticization of his character, I will always see the core of Severus Snape, and that core is a bitter, slimy, genocidal, manipulative trash being. J.K. Rowling's attempt to redeem him only threw obsessive and controlling traits into the mix. Snape is the absolute worst, and romanticizing him only removes criticism of an insane man who just so happened to be capable of love (just like the vast majority of the rest of us). Thank you, next.

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