19 Pieces Of Advice From A Soon-To-Be 20-Year-Old

19 Pieces Of Advice From A Soon-To-Be 20-Year-Old

Looking back at the past 19 years of my life, there is so much that I've learned.

It's still pretty hard to believe that I will be no longer a "teenager" within a few weeks. I still remember running around the playground when I was in kindergarten and having my birthday party at Chuck-E-Cheese. Those sure were the good 'ole times. I had no cares in the world. There was no class to stress over, no rent to pay, and no jobs to work. All I had to worry about was having a good time.

Now, I'm, kind of, grown up. Pretty soon, I have to start thinking about what career I want, whether I want to have children or not, and where I want to settle down. The future is scary, but it's unavoidable. I'd like to think that I've learned a lot in these past 19 years. I've learned a lot about myself as a person, as well a lot about the world around me. And boy, is there a lot to know.

1. That boy/girl you're crying over right now won't matter to you in the near future.

Either you'll find that you are your best self without needing someone else, or you'll find someone who appreciates and loves you for you.

2. The best adventures are always spontaneous.

Go ahead and hop in your car with no particular destination in mind. You'll make some good memories along the way.

3. People may have different views than you.

It may be frustrating to talk to these people, especially if it feels like they are trying to argue every good point you make, but do not fret. Not everyone is going to agree with you and you are going to have to learn how to deal with them.

4. If someone is not putting the same time and effort into the relationship/friendship as you are, they're not worth it.

There are so many other people out there who are worth the time and effort. Don't waste your time on trying to revive something that has died.

5. Every city has their own hidden gem. You just have to know where to look.

Even if your hometown seems like a shithole. There is something there that makes every town unique. You just to make the effort to find it first.

6. Strut your stuff in whatever you're confident in.

If you feel confident in a fierce pair of high heels, go for it. If you feel confident in a pair of sweatpants, go for it. However, this doesn't mean wear your workout attire to a job interview. Know the occasion and dress how you like.

7. Wanting to have time to yourself is not a bad thing.

Sometimes you just need a break. There's nothing wrong with taking a night off and staying in bed with your laptop and binging on Netflix.

8. Rewarding yourself is a powerful motivator.

Set up a system of rewards for yourself. Or, if you've had a rough week and need a break, give yourself a day to relax and recharge before jumping back in.

9. Keep an extra change of clothes in your car.

You never know when you're going to have an adventure that requires a random overnight trip.

10. Be informed about not only American politics but also global politics.

We are not the only country in the world. Everything we do could very well affect what another country does and it is important to know what causes different effects in the world.

11. If what you want to study in college is something you're passionate about, go for it.

Don't bother studying something that is going to bore you. You're just going to be miserable 24/7. Pick something you love and everything will work itself out eventually.

12. Call your parents every once in a while.

They will appreciate the fact that you think about them. It's also a good excuse to ask for some extra money.

13. Heartbreak sucks. Surround yourself with awesome people.

I know it hurts. Surrounding yourself with people who care about you and take your mind off of the pain will make the healing process a lot easier.

14. Try learning another language.

Even if it's just a few phrases. There are so many awesome languages out there. Take your pick and start learning.

15. Read something other than Instagram captions.

Seriously, read a book once in a while. Your brain will thank you.

16. Opposites attract but rarely last.

That cool looking boy/girl that sits next to you in class might be nice to look at. But, if you know that you have nothing in common there's a very high chance that it won't work out. Try finding someone who likes some of the things you like.

17. Your first roommate might suck.

You may very well get lucky and get a really awesome roommate, but be prepared to get one that sucks. If that happens, it's okay. Figure out a way that you can communicate your frustration with them and it won't be as bad.

18. Don't shut up. Speak up.

If never speak your mind about something that bothers you, it's never going to change. If you want to see change, start the conversation.

19. Travel as much as you can.

There is so much to see in the world. If you are able to, go have yourself a global adventure. You will thank yourself for those memories later on.

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To The Girl Who Isn't Graduating On Time, It Won't Feel Any Less Amazing When You Do

Graduating is something to be proud of no matter how long it takes you.


To the girl who isn't graduating college "on time,"

I promise, you will get there eventually, and you will walk across that graduation stage with the biggest smile on your face.

You may have a different journey than the people you grew up with, and that is OKAY. You may have some twists and turns along the way, a few too many major changes, a life change, you may have taken most of a semester off to try to figure your life out, and you're doing the best you can.

Your family and your friends don't think less of you or your accomplishments, they are proud of your determination to get your degree.

They are proud of the woman you are becoming. They don't think of you as a failure or as someone any less awesome than you are. You're getting your degree, you're making moves towards your dreams and the life that you have always wanted, so please stop beating yourself up while you see people graduating college on time and getting a job or buying a car.

Your time will come, you just keep doing what you need to do in order to get on that graduation stage.

Your path is set out for you, and you will get there with time but also with patience. The place you're at right now is where you are supposed to be. You are going to thrive and you are going to be the best version of you when you graduate and start looking for a company that you will be proud to work for. Don't look on social media and feel less than, because at least you're still working towards your degree that you are finally passionate about. You will be prepared. You will be ready once the time comes and you cross the stage, move away, and start your journey in whatever field you're going into.

Don't question yourself, and be confident in your abilities.

With love,

A girl who isn't graduating on time

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A series telling the true experiences of modern day college students.


Everyone tells you to prepare for the best years of your life.

They tell you to prepare for all of the new challenges and new opportunities.

They say that you will meet your future people in college.

What they don't tell you is how much it will hurt.

Seeing old friends disappear because you are no longer home.

Watching your grades fall because the class is too difficult to pass.

Hearing and witnessing your family struggle and you aren't able to be with them.

Seeing all of the adventures that others are going on while you are stuck in your dorm room with the same stack of papers you have been trying to finish for three days now.

They don't tell you how difficult the transition will be.

They especially don't tell you how hard it is to live with someone.

The best of friends can live together and then grow to hate each other.

Complete strangers will move in and never speak.

You'll find friends that are simply just your "writing friend" or "band friend".

Many of the labels from high school can sometimes stick around.

If you're not out drinking or clubbing, then people think you don't have a life.

College is great, but don't think that it will be easy.

You have to make things easy in order for things to happen.

You can't just go around doing whatever and expect things to work out.

It takes time and it takes commitment to succeed in life, and in college.

The best way to deal with it all, find someone!

Find someone that you can get coffee with and watch sports with.

Find someone to eat dinner and lunch with.

Find someone to study religion and math before the next test.

Find someone!

Find your someone, a friend or someone special, to help you make it through everything that life throws at you.

If I had that someone I might have been better off my first year.


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