Every now and then, a guy will do something that makes a girl just want to let out a deep breath and say "thank you". Whether it's a random act of kindness or something all guys should do, but most don't. Here are a few things I could think of off the bat that I personally believe all guys should do -- so listen up boys.
1. Ask for consent...every time
This is a big one, and it should be pretty straightforward. Always make sure you are hearing us vocally tell you that we want to have sex with you before you make any sort of moves to do so (i.e. getting a condom, unzipping your pants, unzipping our pants, etc.)
Unless you hear the "yes" from us, you are not getting anything.
2. Kiss our heads
Whether we're lying in bed and you kiss the top of our head, or we're standing and you kiss our forehead -- both send shivers down our spine and happy feelings in our mind.
It's honestly such a comforting feeling for us and makes us feel secure and safe in your presence.
3. Let us wear your shirts
Not only do they smell like you, but we feel great in T-shirts that are too big for us. It's so cozy and comforting.
Also, a good pro tip -- if a girl takes your T-shirt or sweater home, she wants to see you again.
4. Smell good
I'm going to be honest, a lot of guys can be a little stinky.
But once you take a shower and put on that Old Spice deodorant, we are so much happier and more likely to snuggle with you.
5. Push our hair behind our ear
It is incredibly sweet and even a little sexy when a guy takes a moment to push our hair out of our face and put it behind our ear. Whether it's to get a better look at our face or because long hair can be annoying to deal with, it sends a message to us that you genuinely care.
6. Be honest from the get-go
Believe it or not, we care how many girls you're seeing, if you have a girlfriend, or if you have an STD we should be concerned about. Hiding these things from us because of a fear of us leaving you or hurting us is possibly the stupidest thing you can possibly do, because 1) we will find out and 2) JUST DON'T LIE.
Girls have this sneaky way of finding out everything they want to know -- so please, for your sake and ours, just play it safe and tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth at all times.
7. Take into consideration our needs first
This can encompass a lot of different parts of our relationship -- but especially in terms of sex, please at least try to learn how to please us. I promise you, we will both have a lot more fun if you are trying to get me to have a fun time too.
And no, that does not mean trying for one minute and then immediately wanting to have sex or have us do something for you.
It means taking the time to make sure we're really enjoying ourselves.
8. Let us live our own lives too
As much as we might enjoy spending time with you, we need some time apart as well.
Whether that means us having a girls' night with the ladies or simply just taking a day for ourselves, we need it as much as anyone in order to recharge and figure out ourselves as human beings.
We have our own lives on top of being with you, so let us live the other parts a little too.
9. Chivalry isn't dead
As much as feminism and being strong independent women is a thing (a thing which I hope everyone is in support of), that doesn't discount our appreciation for when men go out of their way to show respect towards us women.
To list a few: opening the door for us, lending us your coat when we're cold, walking us to the door after a date, etc.
They don't need to grand chivalrous acts, but merely little everyday type acts that will make us feel all warm and giddy inside.
10. Use our name
Versus saying "babe" or not saying any name at all, putting our name into conversations can really make us listen harder and feel like you care about us just a little bit more.
11. Start the conversation sometimes
If you're interested in us, I don't care how bad at communicating through technology you are -- it will make us feel so much better if you can text us first every so often. Even if it's just every other to every few days. It makes us feel like you care enough to put in the energy to talk with us.
12. Tell us how you're feeling
You don't have to tell us your whole life story right off the bat, but by allowing yourself to vocalize how you're feeling as you're feeling it is incredibly beneficial for everyone involved.
This kind of ties into the whole honesty thing, but if you want to be more than just friends, there's no harm in just telling us. If you don't want to date anymore -- just tell us. There's more harm in finding out you've been thinking about breaking up with us for over a year, than finding out right as you were thinking of it.
13. Try to be cordial with our friends
Our friends are right next to family when it comes to getting their approval of you -- so make sure to make a good impression from the get-go.
I don't really care if your personalities clash, as long as you are nice to them and respect them like you'd respect me, then we'll be fine.
14. Remind us we're pretty when you're not getting some too
This kind of speaks for itself, but guys tend to do this thing where they'll tell a girl how beautiful she is while they're making out, but will never really tell her when they're just sitting watching TV or out on a date. I get it -- when you're making out, you're seeing her, versus while watching TV, it's hard to focus on two things at once. But one is coming from your horny brain and one is coming from the heart. Decide which one you mean, and go from there.
15. Be confident
Be confident in every move you make with us.
Whether it's going in for a kiss, holding our hand, deciding on a movie.
Girls love confidence in a man and find it incredibly sexy. So as long as you pretend to know what you're doing, we'll appreciate it.
