Is the meaning of girl code/guy code a real thing? Yes? No? Who knows? As crazy as it sounds, most people are pretty understanding if you just...wait for it...talk to them first. A lot of people may say it is totally absurd for a friend to go after their friend's ex, but communication is the most important part of any relationship no matter if it is their friend or significant other. Are our friend's exes totally off limits or is it fair game after a certain amount of time?
To be the judge of it all, here are 15 thoughts you should have before making it official with that certain ex your friend used to date.
1. Am I a rebound/revenge ploy?
2. I should tell my friend I have feelings for their ex.
3. I wonder if my friend will be okay with my new love interest.
4. Will my new relationship destroy my friendship?
5. Maybe I should apologize to my friend and explain how things happened.
6. If I talk to my friend first maybe they might understand.
7. I hope my friend doesn't hate me, but I can't help who I like.
8. Have they talked to their ex about moving forward in a relationship too?
9. Is it too soon to be dating my friend's ex?
10. I should probably ask other people for their opinion first.
11. Is this even a good idea?
12. Will any of my other friends trust me after this?
13. Maybe this isn't worth losing a friendship over.
14. Is this ex dating me for the right reasons?
15. What if my friend did this to me, how would I react?
Of course, like any normal conscience, there are several things that go through someone's head before being intimate with someone that tells them right and wrong. Think hard before dating a friend's ex because these situations raise huge red flags for everyone involved. Friendships get destroyed and nothing will ever be the same. Secrets and assumptions are not worth the risk of losing a great friend, but if you have the courage to be upfront with them, chances are, they might be more understanding than you think as long as you take the time to respect them from the beginning.
