11 Signs You’re Not Ready to Live on Your Own

11 Signs You’re Not Ready to Live on Your Own

Craving independence doesn't mean you're ready to live alone

If you’ve only ever lived with your parents, or maybe roommates in college, you might be starting to crave some independence. You think you’re ready to make that step and go out on your own. But are you really ready to be totally self-reliant? Here’s how to know you’re not ready to live on your own.

1. You’re Terrible With Money

If you’re constantly piling charges on your credit card or don’t actually know how much you spend, that’s not a good sign. You won’t have your parents or roommates to spot you if you need dough for something. Living alone comes with a lot of bills, and you have to be sure you’re financially ready and responsible enough to pay them in full and on time.

2. You Can’t Make an Appointment for Yourself

You’re going to have a hard time being independent if you still have to beg Mom to schedule a dentist appointment.

3. You Don’t Know How to Cook Basic Foods

You can’t survive forever on Chinese takeout and pizza delivery. Plus, that’s not healthy at all! You’ll have to learn how to cook at least the basics before you get your own place. There’s no school cafeteria in an apartment and you might not have the extra money to eat out all the time.

4. You Don’t Clean Up After Yourself

There are some surprisingly gross things in a typical household that you might not expect. If you can’t even keep the clothes off your floor, how do you plan to clean multiple rooms by yourself?

5. You Don’t Understand Energy Efficiency

You might not think this is especially important, but knowing how to be energy-efficient can save you a lot of money. Simple things like LED light bulbs, knowing when to open and close your curtains and adjusting the thermostat properly can save a lot, especially during winter. You have to care about things like that in order to save the maximum amount of money possible.

6. You Have an Impulse-Buying Problem

If you’re constantly buying little things you decide you want, it adds up. You should save that money for things you need, like groceries and car payments. You don’t need another random pair of headphones you’ll never use.

7. You Don’t Know How to Use Basic Tools

You’ll have to handle things like a hammer, screwdriver and plunger if you’re going to be on your own. Little things aren’t going to be fixed by your landlord. It’s up to you.

8. You Rely on Your Parents for Everything

They aren’t going to be there for every little thing you need. If you still rely on them for money, cooking and other things, you’re going to be in bad shape. If you’re helpless enough that you can’t even pick out your own clothes — or something else of that caliber — you’re really going to be in trouble.

9. You Panic About Everything

If something breaks in your apartment or you start burning something while you’re cooking, you need to stay calm. You aren’t going to get anything done by yelling and running around. If that’s your go-to option, you aren’t ready to be by yourself.

10. Your Parents Don’t Trust You With Anything Big

If they can’t trust you to stay alone by yourself or babysit younger siblings, they’re sending you a message. Maybe they think you’ll throw a huge party or you’ll forget to feed your baby brother. Regardless, the message is you aren’t trustworthy for the things that matter — and that means you’re not ready to run a household of your own.

11. You Can’t Even Think About Leaving Home

You might not even think about being away from your parents. You might have even gone to a commuter school so you could stay at home with them. If you instantly freak out at the thought of being separated, you’re definitely not ready. Separation anxiety is serious.

Do you think you’re ready to live alone after reading this? Make sure you really evaluate yourself and your actions. You don’t want to rush into a decision you’ll come to regret.

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You had him in high school, but I get him for the rest of my life.

High school seems like the best time of your life when you are in it. You think that all of your friends will be with you until the end, and that you will end up with whoever you are dating your senior year. For very few, that might just be the case. For all others, that is far from true.

You thought that you would marry your boyfriend and you thought that everything would work out how you had always imagined. I don't blame you though. He's great. You wanted everything with him, but you were just not right for him.

I wish I could say that I am sorry it didn't work out for you, but I can't. I can't because he is mine now, and I get to cherish him forever. You didn't do that right, and you were not meant to be together. You will find someone too, but I am happy that you were not the one for him.

Sometimes I have issues with jealousy, and I hate that you got all of the high school stuff with him. You got to go to games and support him. It kills me that I couldn't be there for him because I know I would have actually been there wholeheartedly. I would have done it out of love, not as a popularity appearance.

I hate that you got to go to all of the school dances with him. He got to see you all dressed up and probably told you how great you looked. I'm sure you did look great. Prom dresses were always fun to pick out and so colorful. It was exciting to match colors with your date. I am sure you had fun choosing his matching tux to your dress.

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I try to not get jealous of all of the things you got with him because it is all in the past. You had your time, and now I get the wedding. You got to dress up in high school, but I get to dress up for my wedding with him. He may have put a corsage on your wrist, but he will be putting the wedding ring on my finger.

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