11 Signs You’re Not Ready to Live on Your Own

11 Signs You’re Not Ready to Live on Your Own

Craving independence doesn't mean you're ready to live alone

If you’ve only ever lived with your parents, or maybe roommates in college, you might be starting to crave some independence. You think you’re ready to make that step and go out on your own. But are you really ready to be totally self-reliant? Here’s how to know you’re not ready to live on your own.

1. You’re Terrible With Money

If you’re constantly piling charges on your credit card or don’t actually know how much you spend, that’s not a good sign. You won’t have your parents or roommates to spot you if you need dough for something. Living alone comes with a lot of bills, and you have to be sure you’re financially ready and responsible enough to pay them in full and on time.

2. You Can’t Make an Appointment for Yourself

You’re going to have a hard time being independent if you still have to beg Mom to schedule a dentist appointment.

3. You Don’t Know How to Cook Basic Foods

You can’t survive forever on Chinese takeout and pizza delivery. Plus, that’s not healthy at all! You’ll have to learn how to cook at least the basics before you get your own place. There’s no school cafeteria in an apartment and you might not have the extra money to eat out all the time.

4. You Don’t Clean Up After Yourself

There are some surprisingly gross things in a typical household that you might not expect. If you can’t even keep the clothes off your floor, how do you plan to clean multiple rooms by yourself?

5. You Don’t Understand Energy Efficiency

You might not think this is especially important, but knowing how to be energy-efficient can save you a lot of money. Simple things like LED light bulbs, knowing when to open and close your curtains and adjusting the thermostat properly can save a lot, especially during winter. You have to care about things like that in order to save the maximum amount of money possible.

6. You Have an Impulse-Buying Problem

If you’re constantly buying little things you decide you want, it adds up. You should save that money for things you need, like groceries and car payments. You don’t need another random pair of headphones you’ll never use.

7. You Don’t Know How to Use Basic Tools

You’ll have to handle things like a hammer, screwdriver and plunger if you’re going to be on your own. Little things aren’t going to be fixed by your landlord. It’s up to you.

8. You Rely on Your Parents for Everything

They aren’t going to be there for every little thing you need. If you still rely on them for money, cooking and other things, you’re going to be in bad shape. If you’re helpless enough that you can’t even pick out your own clothes — or something else of that caliber — you’re really going to be in trouble.

9. You Panic About Everything

If something breaks in your apartment or you start burning something while you’re cooking, you need to stay calm. You aren’t going to get anything done by yelling and running around. If that’s your go-to option, you aren’t ready to be by yourself.

10. Your Parents Don’t Trust You With Anything Big

If they can’t trust you to stay alone by yourself or babysit younger siblings, they’re sending you a message. Maybe they think you’ll throw a huge party or you’ll forget to feed your baby brother. Regardless, the message is you aren’t trustworthy for the things that matter — and that means you’re not ready to run a household of your own.

11. You Can’t Even Think About Leaving Home

You might not even think about being away from your parents. You might have even gone to a commuter school so you could stay at home with them. If you instantly freak out at the thought of being separated, you’re definitely not ready. Separation anxiety is serious.

Do you think you’re ready to live alone after reading this? Make sure you really evaluate yourself and your actions. You don’t want to rush into a decision you’ll come to regret.

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Dad, it's all your fault.

I always tell my dad that no matter who I date, he's always my number one guy. Sometimes I say it as more of a routine thing. However, the meaning behind it is all too real. For as long as I can remember my dad has been my one true love, and it's going to be hard to find someone who can top him.

My dad loves me when I am difficult. He knows how to keep the perfect distance on the days when I'm in a mood, how to hold me on the days that are tough, and how to stand by me on the days that are good.

He listens to me rant for hours over people, my days at school, or the episode of 'Grey's Anatomy' I watched that night and never once loses interest.

He picks on me about my hair, outfit, shoes, and everything else after spending hours to get ready only to end by telling me, “You look good." And I know he means it.

He holds the door for me, carries my bags for me, and always buys my food. He goes out of his way to make me smile when he sees that I'm upset. He calls me randomly during the day to see how I'm doing and how my day is going and drops everything to answer the phone when I call.

When it comes to other people, my dad has a heart of gold. He will do anything for anyone, even his worst enemy. He will smile at strangers and compliment people he barely knows. He will strike up a conversation with anyone, even if it means going way out of his way, and he will always put himself last.

My dad also knows when to give tough love. He knows how to make me respect him without having to ask for it or enforce it. He knows how to make me want to be a better person just to make him proud. He has molded me into who I am today without ever pushing me too hard. He knew the exact times I needed to be reminded who I was.

Dad, you have my respect, trust, but most of all my heart. You have impacted my life most of all, and for that, I can never repay you. Without you, I wouldn't know what I to look for when I finally begin to search for who I want to spend the rest of my life with, but it might take some time to find someone who measures up to you.

To my future husband, I'm sorry. You have some huge shoes to fill, and most of all, I hope you can cook.

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21 Quotes From Twyla Tharp's 'The Creative Habit' That Will Fuel Your Artistic Self

Use your half-baked ideas for good!


Twyla Tharp is a master dancer and choreographer. She's worked with the world's most prestigious artists to create works that will withstand the test of time. She published her book "The Creative Habit" as a viewing window for seeing into her creative process. Tharp offers both hard truths and gently encouraging words for both serious artists and everyday people just trying to expand their circle of knowledge about art. I compiled some quotations from the book that were profound, useful and to-the-point when it comes to examining artistic development.

1. "Creativity is not just for artists. It's for businesspeople looking for a new way to close a sale; it's for engineers trying to solve a problem; it's for parents who want their children to see the world in more than one way."

You get some creativity! YOU get some creativity! Everyone gets creativity!

2. "If art is the bridge between what you see in your mind and what the world sees, then skill is how you build that bridge."

3. "Everything that happens in my day is a transaction between the external world and my internal world. Everything is raw material. Everything is relevant. Everything is usable. Everything feeds into my creativity."

4. "In the end, there is no one ideal condition for creativity. What works for one person is useless for another. The only criterion is this: Make it easy on yourself. Find a working environment where the prospect of wrestling with your muse doesn't scare you, doesn't shut you down."

5. "Someone has done it before? Honey, it's all been done before. Nothing's really original. Not Homer or Shakespeare and certainly not you. Get over yourself."

Ouch. Toes stepped on.

6. "Metaphor is the lifeblood of all art, if it is not art itself. Metaphor is our vocabulary for connecting what we're experiencing to what we have experienced before."

"It's *literally* like this..."

7. "...get busy copying. Traveling the paths of greatness, even in someone else's footprints, is a vital means to acquiring skill."

Choose your muse wisely!

8. "You can't just dance or paint or write or sculpt. Those are just verbs. You need a tangible idea to get you going. The idea, however minuscule, is what turns the verb into a noun..."

9. "When you're in scratching mode, the tiniest microcell of an idea will get you going. Musicians know this because compositions rarely come to them whole and complete. They call their morsels of inspiration lines or riffs or hooks or licks. That's what they look for when they scratch for an idea."

You know you look crazy, but press on, baby ideas in hand!

10. "It doesn't matter if it's a book, magazine, newspaper, billboard, instruction manual, or cereal box -- reading generates ideas, because you're literally filling your head with ideas and letting your imagination filter them for something useful."

"Alexa, play the Reading Rainbow theme song."

11. "...there's a fine line between good planning and overplanning. You never want the planning to inhibit the natural evolution of your work."

Screw this global need for instant information. You gotta just let things run their course sometimes.

12. "Habitually creative people are, in E.B. white's phrase, 'prepared to be lucky.' You don't get lucky without preparation, and there's no sense in being prepared if you're not open to the possibility of a glorious accident. In creative endeavors luck is a skill."

Twyla Tharp is really just a more Type A version of Bob Ross.

13. "I know it's important to be prepared, but at the start of the process this type of perfectionism is more like procrastination. You've got to get in there and do."

14. "You're only kidding yourself if you put creativity before craft. Craft is where our best efforts begin. You should never worry that rote exercises aimed at developing skills will suffocate creativity."

15. "That's what the great ones do: They shelve the perfected skills for a while and concentrate on their imperfections."

16. "Without passion, all the skill in the world won't lift you above your craft. Without skill, all the passion in the world will leave you eager but floundering. combining the two is the essence of the creative life."

17. "My heroes are those who've prevailed over far greater losses than I've ever had to face."

18. "Part of the excitement of creativity is the headlong rush into action when we latch onto a new idea. Yet, in the excitement, we often forget to apply pressure to the idea, poke it, challenge it, push it around, see if it stands up. Without that challenge, you never know how far astray your assumptions may have taken you."

19. "...there's a lesson here about finding your groove. Yes, you can find it via a breakthrough in your craft. But you can also find it in other means -- in congenial material, in a perfect partner, in a favorite character or comfortable subject matter."

20. "A math professor at Williams College bases ten percent of his students' grades on failure. Mathematics is all about trying out new ideas -- new formulas, theorems, approaches -- and knowing that the vast majority of them will be dad ends. To encourage his students not to be afraid of testing their quirkiest ideas in public, he rewards rather than punishes them for coming up with wrong answers."

This approach would've been so helpful.

21. "I began as a dancer, and in those days of pain and shock I went back to where I started. Creating dance is the thing I know best. It is how I recognize myself. Even in the worst of times, such habits sustain, protect, and, in the most unlikely way, lift us up."

Take Twyla's knowledge and have fun exploring creativity in your personal life!

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