We’ve all been there, I certainly have. That one guy you really think is “the one,” but he’s also “the one” to tons of other girls. He’ll say things that you want to hear, and you’ll believe them! If you’re still unsure. Here are some trouble sings that you are in fact dealing with a John Tucker.
1. He already has a reputation as a player.
You know he’s a player, but because he’s giving you special attention you think you can change him. Trust me, you can’t. Tons of other girls who are "dating him" think the same.
2. He keeps you on the down low.
He never shows you off publicly, and no one knows you two are even a thing because he's keeping you low-key. As Kate says, “He’s all about an unspoken bond or something special, but not about a relationship.”
3. You have to work for his attention
Even though he convinces you “he’s yours,” you still always feel like you’re competing so he notices you.
4. He can’t be intimate.
Not sexually intimate, but emotionally. He has to turn a conversation into a sexual one in three seconds, and you can never get to know him on a deeper level because he doesn’t want to let you in.
5. Too many compliments
Granted, I love compliments, but not when it's about my physique every five seconds. He’s only saying it because it’s what you like to hear. But it's not necessarily everything you want to hear.
6. He’s never been in a relationship.
He says that he doesn't have time because of athletics or what have you, but it's really so he has time to play tons of other girls.
7. He has a routine for heart breaking.
Excuses, simply cutting you off, what have you. It's always the same thing, and when you talk to other girls that had a thing with John Tucker, he did the same thing to them, too.
8. You want to get him back, but he's impossible to bring down.
John Tucker was a star athlete. All the girls wanted to date him and all the guys wanted to be him. Getting back at an all-star athlete can be tough in high school, especially when he's well-liked by a lot of people.
9.You go into denial.
You learn that he is talking to a bunch of other girls, but think they have nothing on you. All those other girls think the same. You think he's holding you on a pedestal and that you'll eventually be the only girl for him — trust me, you won't.
10. Other girls have dealt with him, too.
They know his tricks, they know his games, and they know he's playing you because he played them, too. So that kind of gives you guys a bond, right? Look at Kate, Beth, Heather, and Carrie — they all became best friends because of JT.
11. You have learned to not let anything a guy says "woo" you over.
I have been a victim of this. Ladies, we all have. If a guy like John Tucker wants something, they will say and do anything to get it, and you'll want to believe that everything they're saying is the truth, too! It isn't. Whatever your John Tucker has said/says to you is most likely being repeated to another girl.
12. You learned to keep your guard up.
Personally, my John Tucker made me learn how to keep my guard up and build a wall so I can’t get hurt. He played me, and said a million things to get my attention to get what he wanted. I don’t hate him for any of it, but I’m thankful because he made me smarter and stronger.
