In life we all have that one person. The person who comes in unexpectedly and turns your whole world upside down. This person is the first person to actually care for you and love you completely. For the first time in your life you feel "safe" and the world as you know it seems brighter, lighter, and filled with so much more happiness. This person breaks down the walls that you have been building for years and makes you question why you ever were so closed off in the first place. This persons love is raw, innocent, fun, but most importantly this persons love is true. You feel nothing will ever come in between you and this person because after all, this person is your soul mate.
After awhile life begins to happen. Things change, time passes and the love that was once so strong and invincible is now so powerless. What you consider to be your whole world, is now falling apart before your eyes and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. This person now has a new life and unfortunately, no matter how hard you try to be there, that new life doesn't include you. So now you beat yourself up wondering what you did wrong and how you can better yourself when in reality you should be wondering why that person let go of such a wonderful gift they had. You try to hold on, thinking maybe you can be that persons saving grace but at the end of the day there is one person more important.. You. Here is why it is time to fight for YOU and let go.
1. God should be your main security
When we find this person we are just so infatuated with, a lot of the times we end up making that person our security. In other words, this is the person we rely on to "make everything better". This person is responsible for the tears, the laughs, the smiles, and so we end up giving this person the power to affect our mood when in reality, God should be the main one we rely on for comfort and happiness. People will always disappoint you, God never will.
2. Learn to love yourself first
It is time to stop spending so much time loving that person and not yourself. You matter, and you come first in your life. My dad always told me, "If you don't look out for yourself, no one else will." How right he was. We have to take care of ourselves first. You do not deserve to be a door mat in someones life. You deserve to be a top priority. Know your worth and in return they will know your value.
3. Letting go is not weakness; it is strength
Society has formed this general rule that letting go is weak. It is cowardly and people who let go are just quitters. Let me tell you something. If you are beginning to question your worth in a relationship that is the moment in which you must walk away. Letting go is power. Letting go is self care. Letting go is STRENGTH. When you truly love someone, holding on is the only thing that keeps you hoping. No one likes to lose hope. No one likes to feel they're alone. So what do they do? They hold on for dear life. Letting go is realizing that you deserve better in life and that person is no longer adding to your happiness, yet is now subtracting from it. Letting go is gaining strength, and walking away from weakness.
4. Gain your independence back
Nothing is more fulfilling then being independent. Not only does it make you feel powerful, but shows that you do not need anyone to make you happy. You are happy all by yourself and that is a trait that is so important in life. If you can't make yourself happy no one else will.
5. God has a plan.
There is no point in holding onto a person that God wants out of your life. Most of the time it becomes quite evident when God says, "that person is no longer adding to your life, it is time to let go" Listen to him. He has so much better for you. It may be hard to let go but I would hate to hold on to someone who doesn't know the treasure they have and end up losing Gods gift to me. Someone who wants to love, and care for me the way Christ does. It is not worth it.
6. Alone time
We all need that time in our life to truly be alone and reflect on the person we have become and want to become. Great people do not just form over night. They go through life and take the lessons learned to heart and move forward. Over time they learn what they want, who they are, and what they want in someone else. Knowing what you want is key. If you know what you want and are not willing to settle for it, the boys will go running and the men will prove why they should stay. Overall alone time is meant for you and how you can become the person God wants you to be.
7. You are a GIFT
God created us perfect in his image. This means that we should be treated with respect. When someone no longer treats you with the respect you deserve they no longer treat you as a gift. Rather they begin treating you as if you are a nuisance. No one deserves that treatment and if you aren't receiving the respect you deserve, put those heels on and walk.. better yet... Run out of that relationship. It doesn't serve you any longer.
8. You deserve a partner
In life we all want a partner. We want someone to help us through life and in return we help them. We want to love someone and in return be loved. Don't settle for that one sided treatment. The treatment where you give, give, and give some more but never receive. That's tiring. Wait for the partner, the one who wants to be there no matter what.
9. Your standards matter
You should let go because at one point in your life you had standards. You had your idea of the perfect man and somewhere along the way you lost sight of those standards. It is time to raise them back up and wait. Do not settle for anything less than you deserve.
10. Happiness
Your happiness matters. Life is meant to be enjoyed and cherished. God did not put us on this earth to mope around because of the person we're with when we have the option to let go. Find your happiness and take pleasure in the little things life has to offer. Go out and travel the world. Most importantly, know it's okay to be alone. It is okay to have high standards. It is okay to put your happiness first. Don't wait around for happiness to find you because it wont. You create your happiness.
11. You are Important
You are a great person. You are fun, loving, caring, selfless. You deserve to be treated as such. Your importance is not measured by the way someone treats you. You are important because God made you and you are here on this earth for a purpose. Do not forget lose sight of the great treasure you are.
This article is not intended to make you think you should hate the person you were with. That is not the purpose at all. This is to show you that you matter too. Sometimes no matter how hard we try to hold on we need to lighten that grasp and let go. It doesn't mean you're giving up, it means you realize that it is time to value yourself. God has someone in store for each of us. Sometimes we get ahead of that plan, and God has to teach us to wait. You are a treasure. Know that. Accept that. Live that. The moment you realize your worth, others will too. So take that leap of faith and let go of that heavy burden. Find yourself and God will take care of the rest.
