Being shy and entering a new relationship don’t exactly go hand-in-hand, in fact, doing so may seem daunting at first. But being with an extrovert has taught me to not only learn to overcome some of my shyness, but that being an introvert is okay, and even helps to strengthen our relationship.
1. I can open up.
Being more on the shy side, I always found it hard to let people get to know the true me, but after being with someone I fully trust, I’ve realized that I can overcome this. It may take more time to for shy people to open up, but they will eventually, and they will be honest about themselves if they’re with the right person.
2. I’m confident.
Just because I’m shy doesn’t mean I’m not confident. Introverts aren’t necessarily awkward or afraid, but rather, not upfront about how they feel about themselves...it takes a little while to find out.
3. I’m a thinker.
Being an introvert gives you time to think. I may not be talking at every moment with my boyfriend, and we’re both comfortable with that. The silences are just as important as the conversations.
4. I want an extroverted partner.
Being with someone less shy can be difficult at first. You may not have the same quirks and anxieties, but that doesn’t mean you want to be with a person just like you. Being with an extrovert has helped me do things I haven’t always been comfortable with.
5. I’m a listener.
Hate to brag, but I listen the f*uck out of my boyfriend. Being shy, I’ve learned to hear what others say and reflect upon it. I enjoy hearing what my boyfriend has to say; whether it is his thoughts, problems, or a stupid story... it all matters to me.
6. I don’t like pictures.
Not forced ones at least. This might seem like a small worry but it’s not, especially in relationships... I would much rather be the one to initiate it. I will always opt for an intimate selfie over an awkward posed group photo.
7. Introverts are almost never angry.
A lot of the time when you’re quiet your partner may interpret that as being mad, but you’re not. I may have something else on my mind, or simply be zoning out. Much of the time I am quiet, but in no way does that mean I’m angry.
8. Alone or quiet time is necessary.
I love being with my boyfriend, but I also love being alone, or doing separate things together. I’ve always liked to take time for myself and wind down.
9. I’m independent.
There are some things I like doing on my own. Not everything, I still love when my boyfriend wakes me up with coffee every morning, but I still enjoy doing things for myself and I’ve always known exactly what I want. Being in a relationship should never hinder someone’s individual goals, but give that person more support. It’s always important to encourage each other’s determination.
10. People show affection in many ways.
It may not be through words, and that’s okay. Everyone has a different way of showing love. For introverts, this usually isn’t through grand gestures, and it’s crucial that both people in the relationship realize that.
