As a woman, there is a multitude of things people expect you to do. Be smart, pretty, kind, feminine, and who knows what else. Out of all of the things that people tell you about your womanhood, please keep these 10 things in mind.
1. You do not need a man to be happy.
Ladies, ladies, ladies... Please for the love of anything, understand this. You do not need a man to be happy, and you should never put your happiness solely into a man. People come and go throughout our lives. Seasons change, people move on, and one thing stays the same. You will always have yourself to rely on. Invest your happiness into things that you can count on to make you happy consistently. This doesn't go to say that a man cannot make you happy, but do not ever rely on him alone.
2. Don't get too busy that you forget to live.
Okay, I get it. Life is crazy. We have work, school, clubs, and who knows what else that we are expected to be a part of. Do not let this dictate your life. Find time for yourself. Whether it be an evening to relax and do something you love, or maybe a road trip with friends... Find time for you. Do not stretch yourself too thin, because you will only start hurting yourself. Regardless, get your work done, but all work and no play is not healthy (or fun) for anybody.
3. It's okay to not be okay.
Life is tough. You're going to experience ups and downs for the remainder of your life. You're going to lose people, you're going to get that message that you really don't want to see, you're just going to be irritated sometimes. This is okay. We cannot be expected to put up a facade of happiness, but then be a mess inside. Don't be afraid to cry, because sometimes you just have to let it out. I saw a quote one time that said "You're allowed 5 emotional minutes a day, but then you gotta be a gangster". This may not be applicable to everyday, but those 5 emotional minutes or maybe hours do not take away your power as a woman.
4. Empowered women empower women.
Question.. Since when has putting other people down to glorify yourself ever been a thing? As women, we have to realize the need to empower other women. Nothing makes my heart happy than random compliments from somebody that I have never spoken to before, and may not speak to again. It is not difficult to tell someone that their hair looks good or that their makeup looks good.
5. Makeup doesn't define you, but it is really fun to wear.
Let's just go ahead and lay this one on out there. You. Do. Not. Need. Makeup. To. Be. Pretty!!!!!! Honey, you are beautiful just how you are and you do not need that new Mac lipstick to make people like you. With that being said, let's also add that makeup is REALLY fun to play with and to wear. So on the other end of that, if you want to wear makeup every day, do you boo. You're going to look great either way!
6. You did not wake up today to be mediocre.
Did you roll out of bed this morning and think "let me just make it through this day"? Okay, so if you did, I am terribly sorry and I would love to talk to you about it. But you woke up today to be spectacular. You woke up today to take the bull by the horns and make it your own. So go on out there and seize the day.
7. You is kind. You is smart. You is important.
As cliche as this one is, it could not be more true. You are kind, you have a good heart and a kind soul. I do believe that people are really good at heart (Thanks Anne Frank). You are smart. Everybody has different areas of practice, you may not be a math person (lol me), but psychology might be your strong suit (lol not me). You cannot judge your intellect based on everybody else's because we are all so vastly different. And you are so incredibly important. Have you ever thought that you may be the reason somebody smiles? It may just be that your kindness or sense of wonder made them smile, or maybe it is something like holding a door open for someone. You are so important to so many people.
8. Never reduce yourself to make others feel comfortable.
Yes yes yes. You are a powerful woman who will probably intimidate a few people at some time or another. Don't reduce yourself in any way because they are not comfortable with you. Embrace whatever you have and rock it.
9. You are gold, baby girl. Solid gold.
Write this down on your mirror, type it in your notes, get it tattoed on your body(please don't) but please do remember this at all times. You are pure gold and nobody can change that. You were fearfully and wonderfully made to be exactly who you were supposed to be. Your personality is one that is just for you, and nobody else. Embrace who you are and always remember that you are golden.
10. Who runs the world? Girls.
Thank you Beyoncé for this one. But ladies, listen up. You run the world. So own it, work it, and do something with it.
