Being in a long distance relationship has its ups and downs and sometimes it is beyond difficult. In a lot of ways, long distance relationships (LDRs) are similar to regular relationships, but there are a few things that make LDRs a tad more time-consuming and require a lot more work. I'm learning from experience and people always seems to think that having a boyfriend live an ocean away from me is exciting and romantic.
Well yeah, it can be, but let's be real for a second: it sucks 80 percent of the time and the remaining 20 is pretty darn great. Take a look at what i'm talking about:
You have your DOWNS...
1. It's one of the most stressful positions to put yourself in.
Just like any other relationship, you will have your ups and downs with your significant other except in an LDR it's harder to hash things out because he/she isn't there! In order to make things work and form a stronger bond, communication is everything in situations like these.
2. Questioning your relationship is part of the package.
It's normal to have doubts in a relationship but being in an LDR, questioning my relationship was a big thing for me. There were times where not being able to see him would leave me thinking if all the ache and pain was worth it. So it's okay to feel this way but just make sure you work through it with your significant other.
3. Time is your enemy.
Time is the worst thing when it comes to long distance relationships especially when all you want to do is be with the person you love the most. There will some instances where the days seem to drag on and it feels like you'll never be able to be face to face with your person.
4. Money is everything.
Being in a long distance relationship means lots of back and forth traveling and while it may seem fun most times, those trips add up quickly, especially as a student.
5. Your phone/laptop becomes your best friend.
Without my phone and laptop, my LDR would've never worked. They're the key to any long distance relationship in today's society and honestly, it's a great thing because now people can truly have more forms of communicating with their significant other.
6. Memories will trigger emotions.
Memories are great 90% of the time, but that remaining 10% is what gets me feeling some kind of way. One little memory that is particularly special can prove that you are NOT emotionally strong. You will be drowning in tears and missing your person.
7. It never gets easier.
No matter how many times the two of you see each other, there will be heartbreak every time someone leaves back home. Believe me, it still hasn't been any easier.
8. Loneliness creeps up constantly.
When all you want is to be with your significant other, loneliness takes his/her place and becomes your companion. No matter how busy you keep yourself, you can still find yourself sad and in bed wishing you weren't alone. Even when you know you'll see each other in a few months, becoming lonely is part of the package.
Then there are the UPS that make the DOWNS worth it...
9. Picking up where you left off comes naturally.
Even when you've gone weeks or months without seeing one another, once you're reunited, it's the greatest feeling and it feels so natural to forget about all the loneliness and heartaches without your person. It comes easily to reconnect... until you have to leave again.
10. You will never be able to love someone as hard.
Despite everything, nothing will compare to the moments and memories being shared between you and your significant other. My boyfriend and I have been through a lot these past two years and while yes, there have been ups and downs, there's no one else i'd rather share this journey with. He's my person.
