There is basically a Taylor Swift song for every single emotional state one person can experience. However, does that actually mean she knows love? Would you go to her for dating advice? While some of her songs are great and make me want to run through a field of daisies with the love of my life, other songs just don't properly define love and should not be confused as true love by the younger generation who do look up to Taylor Swift.
1. "And his voice is a familiar sound, nothing lasts forever
But this is getting good now
He's so tall, and handsome as hell
He's so bad but he does it so well"
2. "I say, I heard, oh, that you've been out and about with some other girl, some other girl.
He says, What you've heard is true but I
Can't stop thinking about you ...
And when we go crashing down, we come back every time
'Cause we never go out of style"
Just because a boy says he thinks about you doesn't mean you should go back to him every time he calls your name! I don't care if you guys have style—whatever that means— going back to a boy who was romantically entangled with "some other girl" is unhealthy. Even if he can't stop thinking about you, it's detrimental to yourself to continue dating him.
3. "So it's gonna be forever
Or it's gonna go down in flames
You can tell me when it's over
If the high was worth the pain
Got a long list of ex-lovers They'll tell you I'm insane
Cause you know I love the players
And you love the game"
Love isn't an ultimatum, and it isn't forever or never. Sometimes people just grow apart, and it doesn't have to go down in flames. Obviously Taylor has a thing for bad boys and players, which is a bad habit. Fooling around with emotions and love should not be about playing some game with highs and pain. Falling in love is not a stressful process of going through a list of lovers.
4. "Boys only want love if it's torture
Don't say I didn't say I didn't warn you"
No Taylor! Not all boys want torture. So I'm warning you instead, if it feels like torture then it is not love.
5. "And all the times I let you in,
Just for you to go again,
Disappear when you come back,
Everything is better.
This is the last time I'm asking you why,
You break my heart in the blink of an eye, eye, eye ..."
Taylor, please respect yourself. When a guy leaves you multiple times, you need to move on and not let him come back. Even if you feel euphoria when he comes crawling to you, I promise you can find a boy who will actually stay. If he breaks your heart so easily, then why do you let him come back? (Hint: If a boy hurts you, then you should not be with him.) Taylor has a good song, "Stay Stay Stay," where she actually finds a guy who values her and is in the relationship for the long run. Maybe she should listen to her own song.
6. "No apologies. He'll never see you cry,
Pretends he doesn't know that he's the reason why.
You're drowning, you're drowning, you're drowning."
The entire song "I Knew You Were Trouble" is a warning to listeners. If you know someone is trouble, then just stay away! However, it is especially bad if he can never apologize or recognize your feelings. When you feel like you're drowning because of the other person's actions, and they know they are the reason why you feel bad, then you need to escape the relationship immediately.
7. "Oh, I'm scared to see the ending,
Why are we pretending this is nothing?
I'd tell you I miss you but I don't know how,
I've never heard silence quite this loud."
If you think your relationship is ending, then you should probably let it end naturally. However, if you think you can salvage it, then you should not let the silence simmer, but instead communicate about your feelings. Communication is key to any healthy relationship!
8. "And then the cold came, the dark days when fear crept into my mind
You gave me all your love and all I gave you was Goodbye."
It is okay for you to have mixed feelings, and even some fear, about love, but, again, communication! If you have fears, but he is giving you love, then some simple communication can fix everything. Taylor, repeat after me: Talking about your feelings, while still in the relationship, is healthy.
9. "I'm really gonna miss you picking fights
And me falling for it screaming that I'm right
And you would hide away and find your peace of mind
With some indie record that's much cooler than mine"
Okay, so Taylor does get it right that she and this boy should never, ever, ever get back together, but the fact that she broke up and got together multiple times is problematic. A guy who picks fights and thinks his indie records are cooler than yours is not someone you should let back into your life. Although, I am proud of Taylor for finally breaking it off with this jerk.
10. "I'm sick and tired of your attitude
I'm feeling like I don't know you
You tell me that you love me then you cut me down
And I need you like a heartbeat
But you know you got a mean streak
Makes me run for cover when you're around"
Taylor, if a boy has a mean streak or makes you uncomfortable when he is around, then please, please for the love of all things holy, do not stay with him. You do not need any boy who cuts you down. Loving somebody should be fun, easy, and romantic. If you feel the need to run from him, then obviously you should break up with him. Ladies, gents, and everyone else, please respect yourself and do not stay with a boy or anyone who constantly treats you poorly with a bad attitude.
While Taylor may not always understand healthy relationships, she does have some amazing songs for breakups, falling in love, and crushing hard. For love songs, where Taylor really seems to nail the positive aspects of relationships, check out "Mine," "Fifteen," "Fearless," "New Romantics," "Long Live," and "This Love."
