The 10 Stages Of "University Friend Withdrawals" You Experience In The Summer
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The 10 Stages Of "University Friend Withdrawals" You Experience In The Summer

You just saw them like a month ago...right?

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The 10 Stages Of "University Friend Withdrawals" You Experience In The Summer
The Grill Is Not A Home

University friends; the friends that everyone says you'll keep forever. So far, I think it may be true. Nowadays, I stay in contact with my university friends more than my high school friends, sadly.

Now, it's the summer, and you're back home. You're loving the fact that you're surrounded by your family, hometown friends, and, if you have any, pets. You're also off from the non-stop stress of a university, so you can just relax.

But, something is bubbling up inside you, something you're not entirely sure you're willing to accept, and it has to do with the friends you've made at university. What is this?

1. Denial.

You think to yourself: I literally just saw these people like a week ago. What are you doing?

You're home. You're happy. You don't have to deal with college. Be you and relax.

2. Reminders.

Do you ever read an article or look at a funny meme and think "wow, this would make [insert friend's name here] laugh too."

Yeah, that's essentially what happens to you every so often whenever you see a Buzzfeed article or meme. This reminder is usually followed by looking around for that friend to show it to them only to realize that they're not next to you like in college. You're kinda offended by this realization.

Good thing it'll only stay on the internet, right?

3. Reminders: Stage II

This kinda relates to #1, but instead of memes and posts, it's what people do. Things that people say or do reminds you of a story or event that happened between you and your university friends. You have your friends in mind, of course this would happen. But then you realize you're the only one that know of these amazing tales.

So, you try to explain these things to the people who reminded you of your fun tales with your university friends. Sometimes they get it. Sometimes they don't. All you know is that this would've been better if your university friends were right next to you.

4. Messaging

What do you do when something reminds you of them? Message them exactly that! You message your university friends good memes and videos you think they'd like.

We end up messaging each other all night because of it.

5. Reminiscence

Now that you've messaged them, you now reminisce about "the old times" even though they're not that old and were probably just last month, at the very least. You dive into old photos and Snapchat stories of funny/sweet moments you happened to save. Then, you get sad for some reason.

6. Light Stalking

After looking at old memories, you kinda just say to yourself "I wonder what they're doing now" and look at your feed on Facebook or Snapchat to see if they did anything. You feel sad because you're not there to have fun, but you also feel like you're kinda there in spirit.

7. Realization

WHAT ARE YOU DOING???

You just looked back at things and did a little stalking on your university friends. What are you even doing?

You were so excited to go back home and see your family, friends, and pets. You try to convince yourself that logically, you shouldn't be missing them because it's only like what? 2-3 months until you see them?

You literally just saw them last week...or was it a month? No! Stop it feelings!

Oh geez, you miss my university friends....

8. Planning

Now that you've realized and come to terms with your feelings....go outside! Socialize with the people you miss!

But, if you're like me who goes across the country for college and some, if not most, of your university friends are not from your hometown, you might not be able to spend time with all your university friends without burning your wallet. So, you might only have 1 or 2 good university friends who just happen to live in your hometown either by them actually living there or internship. So, you try to make plans with them.

But it's summer, so you might have plans that conflict with theirs and vice versa.

9. Reunion (In The Summer)

This one is only accomplished by the timely and lucky few. Somehow, the universe gave you time in yours and your friend's/friends' busy schedules to hangout. Even though it might just be hanging around an area like a mall or downtown or even just a small meal at a small restaurant, you get to spend time with your university friend(s).

Kudos to the universe, right?

But this small meeting is simply not enough.

10. Wait

This hasn't necessarily happened to you, but you know it's going to happen soon enough. Ok, you lied to yourself. It has happened to you already.

You can feel the excitement for yourself to return to your university because you want to do something with your university friends other than things without them.

You want to share more memories and experiences with them and that's okay!

You only have to wait a month or so...wait what?

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