10 Perks Of Being The Oldest Child

10 Perks Of Being The Oldest Child

Being the oldest rules.
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Growing up with siblings can be a real struggle sometimes. They seem to always show up at just the most inconvenient moments and never shut up, no matter how many times you tell them to stop talking and go away. But despite all the trouble that being the oldest child can cause, there were many pros that came along with the position growing up.

1. You got to set the bar as high as you'd like.

Being the oldest, there are no precedents or expectations from your parents. That means whatever great things you do, they are automatically new and exciting for your family. Sorry, younger siblings, for being so awesome.

2. You felt a sense of responsibility at a young age to teach your siblings all the "important stuff" in life -- and they would believe you no matter what.

Having younger siblings looking up to you meant you got to tell them anything (really, no matter how silly, anything), and they'd always automatically believe you because, well, you're the oldest child after all.

3. You got to be bossy.

Younger siblings are somewhat like free labor. When they're young, they'll do anything to be cool, and who better to wash the dishes than them when you're too lazy to do it yourself?

4. You were the first to experience "big kid stuff."

Finding out the truth about Santa, getting a cell phone, or being able to stay out late -- there were many bragging rights that came with the eldest child role and you soaked up the opportunity to be a big kid every chance you got.

5. Being older means automatic dibs -- on everything.

Who gets to pick the TV channel? What about who gets to sit shotgun in the car ride to the store? Or who is the first one to use the shower? Being the oldest meant you could claim whatever you wanted and say, "I call dibs because I'm older."

6. Younger siblings are always your ego-boasting groupies.

Older siblings are looked up to for so many things, and although it could get annoying, you secretly loved how they would always copy your style, phrases, and habits growing up. Like they say, imitation is the highest form of flattery.

7. Standing up for little brothers and sisters made you feel tough.

NO ONE is allowed to bully my younger siblings except me.

8. Hand-me-downs? What are those?

Growing up, you were always the giver of hand-me-downs, but rarely the receiver.

9. You get to watch them grow, and you know you have built-in best friends for life.

Watching your younger siblings grow up is a bittersweet feeling. Being the oldest, you feel proud knowing you helped shaped them, and happy knowing they'll always be there for you.

10. Through it all, you've learned some pretty valuable leadership skills.

Beyond all the jokes and silly times, being the oldest has prepared you for life by teaching you how to help others, be selfless, and take responsibility.

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To The Parent Who Chose Addiction

Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.

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When I was younger I resented you, I hated every ounce of you, and I used to question why God would give me a parent like you. Not now. Now I see the beauty and the blessings behind having an addict for a parent. If you're reading this, it isn't meant to hurt you, but rather to thank you.

Thank you for choosing your addiction over me.

Throughout my life, you have always chosen the addiction over my programs, my swim meets or even a simple movie night. You joke about it now or act as if I never questioned if you would wake up the next morning from your pill and alcohol-induced sleep, but I thank you for this. I thank you because I gained a relationship with God. The amount of time I spent praying for you strengthened our relationship in ways I could never explain.

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Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.

The amount of hurt and disappointment our family has gone through has brought us closer together. I have a relationship with Nanny and Pop that would never be as strong as it is today if you had been in the picture from day one. That in itself is a blessing.

Thank you for showing me how to love.

From your absence, I have learned how to love unconditionally. I want you to know that even though you weren't here, I love you most of all. No matter the amount of heartbreak, tears, and pain I've felt, you will always be my greatest love.

Thank you for making me strong.

Thank you for leaving and for showing me how to be independent. From you, I have learned that I do not need anyone else to prove to me that I am worthy of being loved. From you, I have learned that life is always hard, but you shouldn't give into the things that make you feel good for a short while, but should search for the real happiness in life.

Most of all, thank you for showing me how to turn my hurt into motivation.

I have learned that the cycle of addiction is not something that will continue into my life. You have hurt me more than anyone, but through that hurt, I have pushed myself to become the best version of myself.

Thank you for choosing the addiction over me because you've made me stronger, wiser, and loving than I ever could've been before.

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An Open Letter To Older Brothers, With All The Things Your Younger Brothers Won't Admit

This is what everyone with older brothers won't admit, so I'll do it for us all.

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Older Brothers:

As we get older, we definitely begin to grasp at the importance of our relationship with each other. More specifically, the path of substantial growth that develops and unfolds as we get older bewilders us, yet we find ourselves elated with the direction that it is taking. Although we used to unconditionally hate each other, times change substantially the older we become.

We all truthfully appreciate the weight of the growth more than you do, and we'll explain why further in this letter alongside the stages of our relationship.

Ironically, it is very hysterical to think as far back as we can remember to when we were little kids. We definitely caused our parents to be overwhelmed with extraordinary stress, but it did not matter to us. The first stage of our relationship was as innocent and peaceful as could be, at least before the storm arrives later on. We truly appreciate engaging in nothing but fun with you. You were our first tour guide in the world, and your hobbies became ours. We could often be found disappearing into endeavors, on a life or death mission as we saw it.

Simply put, we were in it together, whatever it was.

Even with small and insignificant bickering every once in a while, it never amounted to anything terrible. All we cared about was exploding with our energy and breaking the ornery meter with you. Thank you for embracing this first stage of enjoyment with us. It seemed to pass by incredibly fast, especially with stage two of our relationship on the horizon.

Stage two was a huge love-hate time. It was also by far the most growthful and helpful time for us, even though it certainly did not seem that way. As we entered into our pre-teens and then into middle school, all we cared about was undermining you. For some reason that we really do not know how to explain, we attempted to find an edge.

Stage two of our relationship was filled with fighting that usually ended in us losing. This specifically helped us to learn how to deal with crap. You also had all your high school friends more or less beat us up. You also always expected us to be at our best. As you progressed through high school, we were beginning to learn it all. This is where the love of love-hate came into play. Although we also never explicitly understood or acknowledged it, you inspired us. Being older, you had already experienced a lot and helped us through the worst.

Stage two was definitely a rollercoaster of love-hate (more hate in our minds), but we later learned you were dope.

In the final stage of growth in our relationship, we learned that we had and have a built-in forever best friend relationship. In our late high school years, college, and beyond, we finally realized the impact you had on us. You are honestly probably happier than us that we finally grew up, but we never admit we were and are the perfect duo, two peas in a pod. We grew up together and experienced a lot. So here's to us, even though we will always be better than you.

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