You're Worth More

You're Worth More

Even if you feel pressured, please don't settle.

I feel like I've had endless conversations lately about relationships. Where there going, how there going, and why someone is or isn't in one. The conversations have been interesting to say the least.

More often than not, the young women I have talked to about relationships, have been feeling pressured. Pressured by others around them, by family members, by friends and on a broader spectrum, society in general. They have felt pressured to find someone and beat the ticking clock that they face each and everyday. To be in a relationship and to live "happily-ever-after." But, this pressure has become so immense, that these young women have begun to accept a "settlement." To overcome the pressure, to get rid of the ridicule and constant questions, they have decided to settle. To say "yes" to a marriage proposal, even though they don't feel ready. To make-out with a stranger, to overcome the loneliness and constant nagging from friends. To lie about being interested in a young gentlemen, just to stop the constant questions about 'why their still single.'

It's sad to see and it is sad to say, but young women within my inner circle are giving into pressure. They are falling for guys to fill a void, to meet the timeline set by society and to stop the constant pressure. But young women near and far, please understand that you do NOT need to settle. I know it's hard, believe me, but I've seen the domino effect that occurs when one settles. When a young women falls for a gentlemen and 10, 15, or 20 years down the road, realizes she was never ready or he was never ready, and she settled just because she felt the pressure.

I know society is telling you that this is the time. You are in your early or mid-twenties and this is your prime. The prime time to fall in love, to find the right person and to settle down. But, just because society has set this timeline, it does not mean you need to follow it. Instead, follow His timeline.

Take a deep breath and relax. Let the pressure roll off your shoulders and listen to the voice of Truth. Listen to Gods plan. Don't loose sight of it. Because, when we see and listen to His plans, we will never be prone to settle.

So, to all my friends, to all young women who are feeling the pressure against their backs, please don't give in. Please know that you are beautifully and wonderfully made, and God never wishes for you to settle for less than He has for you. So hold on and don't give in, I know it's hard, but it will be worth it in the end.

Remember, you are WORTH more.

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Plaid. The one thing that every private school-goer knows all too well. It was made into jumpers, skirts, shorts, scouts, hair ties, basically anything you could imagine, the school plaid was made into. You had many different options on what to wear on a normal day, but you always dreaded dress uniform day because of skirts and ballet flats. But it made waking up late for school a whole lot easier.

2. New people were a big deal

New people weren't a big thing. Maybe one or two a year to a grade, but after freshman year no one new really showed up, making the new kid a big deal.

3. You've been to school with most of your class since Kindergarten

Most of your graduating class has been together since Kindergarten, maybe even preschool, if your school has it. They've become part of your family, and you can honestly say you've grown up with your best friends.

4. You've had the same teachers over and over

Having the same teacher two or three years in a row isn't a real surprise. They know what you are capable of and push you to do your best.

5. Everyone knows everybody. Especially everyone's business.

Your graduating class doesn't exceed 150. You know everyone in your grade and most likely everyone in the high school. Because of this, gossip spreads like wildfire. So everyone knows what's going on 10 minutes after it happens.

6. Your hair color was a big deal

If it's not a natural hair color, then forget about it. No dyeing your hair hot pink or blue or you could expect a phone call to your parents saying you have to get rid of it ASAP.

7. Your school isn't like "Gossip Girl"

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8. Sports are a big deal

Your school is the best of the best at most sports. The teams normally go to the state championships. The rest of the school that doesn't play sports attends the games to cheer on the teams.

9. Boys had to be clean-shaven, and hair had to be cut

If you came to school and your hair was not cut or your beard was not shaved, you were written up and made to go in the bathroom and shave or have the head of discipline cut your hair. Basically, if you know you're getting written up for hair, it's best just to check out and go get a hair cut.

10. Free dress days were like a fashion show

Wearing a school uniform every day can really drive you mad. That free dress day once a month is what you lived for. It was basically a fashion show for everyone, except for those upperclassmen who were over everything and just wore sweat pants.

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Now before anyone says anything, yes I know I am biased. That's the whole point! The University of South Florida is truly an amazing institution. The campus is big, but not overwhelming. Trees and plants cover the grounds and create a very peaceful feel as you walk around campus. The buildings are modern looking, our facilities are advanced, and there is a sense of openness to the layout of everything. there are no confined or small areas, the whole campus is an open floorplan.

Additionally, the diversity rate of USF is incredibly high. there are people from all areas of life that come here and join the herd. We are unique in the sense that you never truly know who you'll run into as you go around campus. I have not had one negative interaction with anyone on campus. People are open-minded and allow you to be yourself. There is a constant feeling of kindness in the air, and not just from students. The professors are caring, the staff members are kind, and the janitorial staff members are some of the sweetest individuals I have ever met. You are always met with a smile.

USF also is in a great city, Tampa! There is so much to do in close proximity to the school. It's really quite amazing everything you can do. Down the street is Busch Gardens, across the street is MOSI, and Universal and Disney are only an hour drive East! There are also multiple restaurants around and shopping centers as well. the campus is clean, safe, inviting, and so much more. And if that wasn't enough to convince you, we also have our very own Publix! You cannot get much better than that!

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