So many women find the compliment, “You’re so hot” to be one of the sweetest things that could be said. While a woman feels great when she hears this statement, why do so many of us focus only on a woman's physical attributes when she has so many more important qualities worth complimenting? Yes, being easy on the eyes is a nice one, but we should probably start noticing -- and acknowledging -- the other things about women that so many people underestimate.
What about confidence? It's such an underrated quality. Women who have confidence should be highlighted for it more often. In today’s society, it's increasingly difficult to have confidence, and I know a lot of women struggle with it. But the ones who have it flaunt it, and they should. They know that what they have to offer can make a difference in the world, and to me, that is a beyond beautiful thing.
What about intelligence? A lot of people seem to overlook the intelligence of a woman, especially if she is really attractive. Being educated is incredibly valuable and respectable, so you'd think it would also be admired that much more. Invest your time in constantly learning about things -- what you love, whatever you’re passionate about. It needs to be something that more people look to and respect because being intelligent is something that will take you much further than being “hot” ever will.
What about kindness? Kindness between women can be such a hard thing to come by. They tend to be rather territorial, which can be expressed as jealousy and rudeness to one another. But we shouldn’t be against each other -- we should be building each other up. We should be kind. We should be supportive. Every woman knows how hard it can be to be a woman in today’s society, and we should be a supportive and caring force or each other. Kindness goes a long way and can actually make you a much more attractive person.
And if we do have to acknowledge someone's aesthetic over other qualities, how about we come up with a different word choice? While some girls may prefer "hot," I personally find "beautiful" a much more genuine and complimentary word. Coming from the right person, "beautiful" could be the one compliment to make my day. And "beautiful" doesn’t just imply physical features -- it means beauty from within, too. And that is the most important kind of beauty.
So instead of making comments about a girl being “hot” or “banging” or whatever other words you come up with, think of all the things that make her who she is, all of the things that make her stand out from everyone else. The features on the inside so outnumber the ones on the outside. Call her out on the ones that make her personality beautiful, not just her body. Confidence, intelligence and kindness make someone beautiful, so let's make sure we help those who forget sometimes.
