To The College Student Lacking A 'Support Team,' You Are Not Alone

To The College Student Lacking A 'Support Team,' You Are Not Alone

Never stop believing in your dreams

We are three weeks into college.

It's Labor Day weekend.

Everyone is going home, getting visits from parents.

All my roommates and friends are heading home for the weekend.

I'm not. A friend invited me to go home with her, so that will be my trip for the weekend.

I moved out of my grandmother's home 8 months ago. We didn't agree on a certain situation, and I chose to leave. I have had to adjust to being an adult very fast. I worked my butt off through the rest of my senior year and worked full time over the summer. But I made it. I made it to my first choice. I'm here and I'm 40 credits ahead of most of my class. I am a special education major with a minor in equine therapeutics and I will continue to work my tail off to where I want to be in my life and career.

My boyfriend, now fiancé, was my biggest supporter, besides God Himself, through all of this. He never failed to push me not to give up, even when all I wanted to do was curl up in defeat. He would remind me how far I've come and what I'm working towards.

It hurts not being able to go home. I feel very isolated at times. My friends talk about how their families cried on move in day, and how much they miss them. They talk about the care packages and all the FaceTime calls. It hurts. And no I'm not complaining. It's just how I feel. I chose this path for myself when I moved out, but that doesn't mean I can't be a little crestfallen.

I look forward to my fiancé's visits. I look forward to seeing him and feeling a huge smile just come across my face knowing that I have him in my life. Knowing that I had him to help me move in, and stay with me until my roommates got there since I was able to move in early. I love knowing that I still have a support team. Not only in him, but all the people who have supported me that weren't family by blood but by heart and love.

For the people who think they have no one to support or help them through a large milestone in their life, look around. Your support doesn't have to be your family. It doesn't have to be a significant other. It can be friends, church members, people you've known forever..and even the people you never would have imagined care for and want to help you.

I know I found my support team. I am starting to build a relationship back with some of my family members, and I pray that I am able to mend some relationships. I have learned the importance of relationships with the people you love. I have learned that forgiveness is something very difficult to obtain, but so worth it. I am ready to embrace my life and anything God sends my way. I am ready to overcome the rest of this school year and everything it may hold. I am ready to embrace myself for who I am.

So thank you.

Thank you to my fiancé, who helped me through everything and stayed even when I pushed him away.

Thank you to the many people who have helped me along the way *cough* Cheryl Cook *cough*. I couldn't love you guys more.

Thank you God for casting Your light on me and helping me through the good and the bad days. Thank You for never leaving my side. Thank You for walking my path with me, no matter how many times I tripped and struggle.

Never stop believing in your dreams and yourself.

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Dear Mom, I Hope You Know

I hope you know that I am here for you--until the very end.

Dear Mom,

I hope you know that I appreciate you.

You are the hardest working woman I know, continuously putting your family before yourself. Thank you for doing all of the tedious jobs that no one wants to do like keeping the house in order, cooking the food, and doing the laundry. Thank you for constantly putting up with my siblings and I. Thank you for always supporting us in our interests and hobbies. Thank you for investing in our daily lives and listening to our minor problems. Thank you for always loving us unconditionally.

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I hope you know I'm sorry.

I know I can be a big pain in the butt sometimes, and for that I'm sorry. I'm sorry for yelling at you, arguing with you, not listening to you, and making dumb decisions at times, but thank you for loving me anyways. Thank you for helping me stand back up, teaching me right from wrong, and pushing me to be the very best version of me.

I hope you know your love inspires me.

You live your life with a love that is contagious. Whether its nurturing love, tough love, friendly love, or romantic love, you have it all and you show it daily. The love you and Dad share is something I hope to find one day and the love you have for your family is evident in the way you constantly put us first.

I hope you know that you are my biggest role model and hero.

Ever since I was a little girl, you have been the person I have looked to in my life. You are strong, independent, confident, loving, supportive, and nurturing-- everything I strive to be as a woman and as a future mother. You give the best advice, even when I don't always take it. Though, I should know better by now because mothers always know best. Without you in my life, I honestly don't know where I'd be.

I hope you know that you are my best friend.

Not only are you my biggest cheerleader supporting me in everything I do, you are the person I talk to about everything, whether it's good or bad. I'm honestly so thankful for the relationship we share because I've had countless screwups and you literally give the best advice. Seriously, thank you for being the person I can count on at all times, at any time of the day or even night to just talk with. I mean we really do have some of the best conversations, best laughs, best cries (when needed), and the most fun watching cheesy chick flicks together or going on crazy shopping adventures.

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I hope you know that I am here for you--until the very end.

I don't mean to make you cry or anything -- even though you probably already are, but I want you to know that when the time comes, I'm going to be there for you just like all of these years you've been here for me. I will be there to support you, talk with you, laugh with you, cry with you, and love you for all of my life.

Honestly, I can't really imagine my life without you -- but it doesn't matter because I wouldn't be here without you, so here's to you.

Thank you for being you.

Love you lots!

Your daughter.

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7 Things To Get You Into The Christmas Spirit

Christmas is a time spent with family to celebrate each other and life.


Christmas time is here and this is the spirit filled with love and joy. This is known as the most wonderful time of year and it truly is. Some people say that it is even known as a magical holiday because many magical, heart-warming things happen during Christmas.

Here are 7 things that are sure to get you into the holiday spirit. Let's kick this off with number 1.

1.  Scented Candles

I know you are thinking like this is good, but not good enough to be number one. We will not focus on priority but instead the overall purpose this serves for getting you into the holiday spirit. Scented candles like apple cinnamon, sugar cookie, mint and candy cane are good scents to remind you that the holidays are here. Light one up and hopefully you'll feel a little warm inside.

2. Wreaths

Wreaths can be used year-round depending on how they are decorated. If you don't know what a wreath is, many people hang them up on the door during the holidays. Some wreaths are scented and some are just decorated beautifully; it all depends on what you want for your house and the holidays.

3. Stockings

Buying stockings to hang around the living room is always helpful to get you going for the holidays. Stockings symbolize Christmas and small gifts inside. This is a very festive items that children love and well, me too.

4. Pecans

Throughout my years of growth, my mother would always buy a huge bag of pecans and would sit them in a glass bowl on the living room table. Whenever we would be lounging around the house, we would grab a napkin and get to crackin'. Any time that my mom did this preparation, I knew that it was time for Christmas and it would always make the holidays a little bit better for me. Weird? I know.

5. Candy Canes

I LOVE a good candy cane. Candy canes are such a big portion of my life when it comes to the holiday season. Candy canes have the ability to satisfy me in so many ways. One, being that I can eat them and two, the fact that I can give them to someone else to make their day. How can you not accept a candy cane? Especially the fruity, pink and red kind.

6. Christmas Lights

Christmas lights make such a statement. They bring the holiday season to life and makes everything seem magical. Whether the Christmas lights are decorated outside of the house or inside of the house. They can bring a smile to your face.

7. Holiday Movies

The movies are the BEST part of the holiday season. The Home Alone Series, Jack Frost, Rudolph the Red Nose Reindeer, and many more. There's one specific movie that really makes me get into the holiday spirit and that's How The Grinch Stole Christmas. This movie is iconic! It brings so many elements of Christmas into the movie alongside of comedy, love and joy. Wow. If you have not seen it, I recommend that you do.

I hope that these seven things can get you all into the holiday spirit. Christmas is a time spent with family to celebrate each other and life. Hopefully, this article is beneficial to kick off your holiday spirits.


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