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You're Just A Lesson Learned

Losing you made me a better version of myself.

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You're Just A Lesson Learned
Muthia Laurensia

In our life, we always experience the temporary, which means, we might lose something or someone and we cannot do anything but to move on. Sometimes, some people think that they already have someone in their life who will be there forever. However, that someone might just be a lesson. In my first article, I talked about “Losing someone made me a better version of myself.” I want to write a follow up message to everyone especially to young people, hopingly that I could add encouragement to them.

“Some of us might be so hard to let go of our loved ones even though the relationship is toxic. Others might even choose to become stupid in love just to be able to make a person stay in their life. Some people say that we must chase the one we love no matter how hard the situation is. But we all know, it might NOT be the person who is meant for us, which is the sad part. However, that can be a good lesson to make a person become stronger.”

I experienced toxic relationship and I know it is not only me who faced those kind of situation in life. I spent three years of my life trying to fix this person. However, the more I get to know about him, the more I realize that I was losing myself. “We all know that when we are in a relationship, we should grow together and not compete with each other. We also know that when we love someone, we suppose to build stronger faith and not destroy each other emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually. But in my situation or even to others, we compete with each other.” I tried my best to always hold on to our situation because I was settled with my belief that I love him more than myself. However, love does not go that way.

The more I realized that the relationship with this person was not worth it anymore, I let go not because he was not enough. I let go not because I got tired of understanding him over and over again. I let go because I need to love myself first before loving someone else. Losing him made me a better version of myself, which is the good part.

“You do not need to hold on just because you have already spent years with that person. You do not need to choose that person just because you believe that he or she is your life. Even some people who had longer years let go of someone who was toxic in their lives just because they know what is better. It is painful, but your worth is always important. Love yourself first before facing the reality of relationships. Love yourself first because by the end of the day, the only person who will be there for you is yourself. Lastly, do not be afraid of losing someone because losing someone might just means you deserve a better you.”

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