I know what you're thinking. You're probably saying to yourself, "Oh great, another pessimistic article about how love doesn't exist!" Or you could even be thinking, "Ah, yes. Finally, an article telling the cold hard truth about how love sucks." Well, my friend, neither of these assumptions are right.

Love is most definitely not anything to be pessimistic about, or even doubt. It is real. It is beautiful. It is holy. I would be willing to bet that most single people pray on a regular basis for God to send the "right" guy or girl. While praying that prayer every once in a while and going on about our daily lives, somewhere along the way we might come across a person that we become completely infatuated with. They are most everything we prayed for in a person. Good looking, smart, same taste in music, loves God, you name it. They've pretty much got it all. Eventually, we fall head over heels in love with this person. Soon enough, you've convinced and said to yourself, "I'm finally with the person God made especially for me."

But then, sparks fade over time. The puppy love stage ends. You might even fight more with each other than you laugh together. Before you know it, you're second guessing the entire relationship, and it's over in the blink of an eye. You break up because you both started to think that "maybe this isn't what God wants" or "it just wasn't meant to be."

I know, by the time this happens you are probably completely dumbfounded because they were supposed to be "the one."That within itself is unbearably heartbreaking and disappointing.This might come as a surprise to a lot of people, but there is no such thing as the right person (or soulmate). They were only not "the one for you" because the relationship was put into the hands of fate when all along, it was a choice to stay and make them the one for you.

Where people go wrong when looking for a person, is that we don't actually look at all. Sitting in one place, praying and hoping that God will send us this perfect person will do only a little for us. Now, I am not saying that praying for your potential future spouse is a bad thing. Do that daily! But stop waiting and make use of the connections and relationships you already have. You'd be surprised at what can come out of that when you choose to love instead of waiting on love to find you. You also go wrong whenever you convince yourself that there is a person "made especially for you." Just so you know, if that is the person you are waiting for, you will be waiting forever, literally. The only person God creates someone for is Himself!

There's this little thing God granted us with...free will. People, USE THIS TO YOUR ADVANTAGE. Put God first in all you do (especially when looking for someone) and he will do His part, as always. This isn't to say that this means that we can date whoever. When looking, look for someone God would be pleased to see you with. As long as you are honoring God with the person you choose, go for it.

So with all of this being said, stop looking and waiting on your soulmate. Use the blessing you are given, choose someone. And more importantly, choose to rely on God and love, not fate.

Happy dating!