Is there a correlation between the number of sexual partners one has to their self worth?
On average, men will add to their number while women will deduct her number of partners. The man thinks the higher his number is, the better he is. Women, on the other hand, will deduct because they don't want to be perceived as one who 'gets around.'
I asked some of my friends, followers on social media, and even some strangers the question below!
Question: Does having a lot of sexual partners decrease your self-worth? Do you think there is a correlation?
Friend 1 (male, hispanic, college junior)
His answer: For a guy or a girl?
I replied: both
Friend 1: It depends on the person
I asked: Would you value a woman who's had around 15 sexual partners the same as you would a virgin?
His answer: If it's more than my number, probably not.
I asked: If she had more partners than you, you would value her less?
His answer: I wouldn't value her less, but what guy would want their wife's number to be more than his?
Friend 2 (male, caucasian, 26 year old, employed) His answer: Only if you let it. I think we as a society have diminished the true reasons to have sex..as a physical sign of the love you have for one another and of course, procreation. Now, it's like sex is just something you do .
Friend 3 (male, hispanic, college senior) His answer: The number of partners a woman or man have shouldn't be based on how you value them as an individual. You have no right to disvalue someone because who are you to disvalue them? We all have faults in our lives. So, no it shouldn't matter.
My question: Would you value a woman who's had around 25 sexual partners the same as you would a virgin?
His answer: Yes, I would value them the same.
I also did a poll on Twitter asking the same thing. These are the results:
Is there a correlation between the amount of sexual partners one has to their self worth?
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Stranger (female, indian, 34 years old, employed)
I think the reasons behind why you have many sexual partners matters. If you do it just to do it, then yes there is a correlation. If they have many sexual partners because they have been in so many relationships, then no I won't judge them.
Stranger (male, caucasian, 27 years old, employed)
There is definitely a double standard, but ignorance is bliss. I rather not know.
Mother of a friend (female, hispanic, 43 years old, employed) I personally believe that the amount of partners you may have has a huge impact on your self worth. It depends on everyone individually. I believe a man looks at that when they choose to marry. They may mess around with many women but do not choose to marry any.
Best friend (female, hispanic, college senior) I think it has something to do with it if you want it to. Some do it because their self esteem is low, and others do it because they just like to have sex. To give a definite answer on the question, yes I would think she is less valuable.
Relative (male, white, 60 years old, employed) If you have a lot of partner you don't respect yourself, therefore you don't have any self worth.
Me The double standard is definitely still alive and well. Unfortunately, most people will look down on a female with a high number, but won't look down at a man. I personally don't think there should be a correlation between the amount of sexual partners to your self worth. You do you, girls.
Ask your friends what they think about this! Let me know by tagging me, or commenting below!