A relationship is supposed to be a mutual respect for each other, an understanding with each other and a thing where you're supposed to rely and depend on each other. But just because you're supposed to rely and depend on each other doesn't mean you can't be independent. You're supposed to be independent; know who you are without that person.
As a young single woman, I can take the time to appreciate other people's relationships because I don't have one of my own.
And something I notice so often is young women, like myself, find someone they really really love they will do anything and everything to make their significant other happy. Even if that means cutting off their friends, stop going out or changing their wardrobe; it's just something I see all too often.
Instead of the friends and the boyfriend all hanging out together, I hear all the time about girls who never hear from their friend because she has a boyfriend now, or how their friend just isn't the same person since she started seeing this new guy.
And something I hear way too freaking much is "my boyfriend would never let me leave the house wearing that." NO NO NO NO NO. I'm sorry, I didn't realize that your boyfriend was your dad and was able to treat you like you are 16 years old. Right, he's not. STOP IT. If there is a party or a dinner or whatever and you want to wear a dress that shows off the body that your mama gave you, wear it. Your boyfriend should be happy to show you off like that. He should be happy to walk into a crowd with you on his arm and say "yeah, that's my girl." Stop giving these men the power to control you and what you wear and all your actions. Honey, you wear and do whatever the hell you want to do.
Girls, you are all independent, strong, beautiful women, and there is a reason that guy fell for you in the first place. He didn't fall for you to change everything you are and everything you were raised to be just to please him. And if he expects that, dump him. You don't need a man that doesn't encourage your success and your beauty. You'll be much better in the end without him. You'll find someone in the end who lifts you up just as much as you lift him up. Someone who will be so proud to call you his. He'll thank your mom for bringing someone so amazing as you into this world. Find that guy, not the loser that won't let you go out for the night with your friends in a dress that doesn't cover your ankles and neck. And trust me, you will find that guy.
