“You will search for me in another person. I promise.” – (And you will never find me.) – Anonymous
I cannot describe to you the feeling that runs up and down my spine when I read this quote for the very first time. It was one of those sayings that caught my eye three words in. I automatically knew I wanted to write something on it, but I did not want to focus it on the fact that we could love a person at one point, and the next instance we are searching for them in another person. (But we never seem to actually find them ever again.) It is inevitable and more relatable to concern ourselves with this concept or point perspective. But, I do not want to talk about relationships in this article. I want to talk about myself, yourself and ourselves. I want to express to you how evolutionary we really are and much we evolve without really noticing a difference from one year to the next.
So, continuing on with the point perspective, I want my readers to focus on is this, “We evolve and we keep evolving and at some point or another we look at where we are and realize how far we have come.” (I do not know how I came up with that quote on the spot but somehow I am talented tonight). At some point or another, as stated above, we come to a point where we realize the change that occurred in us when we did not even realize we were changing. It is an incredible feeling that we get to experience only so often and so little often. In college, we enter the next four years as naïve young adults who are looking to get away and do something with the freedom we have been granted. Four years later, we realize how much of a different human being we are and look back thinking, “I am never going to be that person again. Who I was four years ago is gone and will never return.”
This perspective is an incredible one because we get a chance to start over more than once and at any moment. Any moment we can decide to change something or do something differently. All of these little changes, like getting up earlier, trying to compliment yourself more, or expressing your feelings towards others in a more enlightening way are all ways that can contribute to a huge evolvement of yourself. A more mature and caring human being. Every little change will build up to an even bigger self and one day we will see all of these little things come together into a much bigger and positive being.
“And you will never find me.” This is referring to the fact that you will never be the same two years from now or maybe even two weeks from now. Everything is changing and we have to adapt to those things. One day we will not be able to find who we are now in the person we are evolving into.
Sometimes, even we will run into or come across people who remind us of ourselves- not of ourselves now, but rather someone we all used to be. We will either smile as we appreciate those qualities, or we will smile and appreciate how we changed those little things about ourselves and to be glad we do not contain those qualities anymore.
The purpose of this is to realize that we can search through ourselves so much and so intently but will not find our old selves ever again. “You will search for me in another person.” You will search for your old self in your new self and fail to find that older version of yourself.
That to me is beautiful and something I have learned to appreciate. I hope others can find an appreciation to changes and accept that changes make us who we are and adapting to whatever is thrown at us is meant for us and will help us become who we are meant to be in the end.