You were so in love with him. When he said your name, it felt like home. And when you looked at him, you were looking at the love of your life, and the man that you thought you were going to marry someday. You saw oceans in his eyes, but when he looked into yours, he saw only the tears he knew were fated to fall when he said those ear piercing words to you: “I don’t love you anymore.” So, he got scared, and he left. And when he left, it was like part of you left with him. And because he walked away and never looked back, it feels like that part of you will never come back, either. Life has a weird way of putting things into your reach at the most random times, things that will make you become genuinely happy. Life does this, and you’ll think you’ve got it all figured out, but suddenly, that “thing” will be ripped away from you. There is no warning. There is no explanation. One day it is there, with you, and you are more full of life than you ever thought you could be. And then the next day, it is no more, and you are left wondering if you will ever be okay again.
The answer is: yes. Yes, you will be okay. You are going to push through this, and you are going to be just fine. How do I know? Because I loved somebody with my whole heart, and I lost him. It was the worst pain I have felt in my entire life, and I truly did not think I was going to make it out alive. But I am still here, and I am still living. Heartbreak is not a myth. It is not some fictitious story. It is not something that can so simply be pushed aside and ignored. It takes a toll on you mentally, emotionally, and physically. You will wonder why you weren’t good enough to be loved. You will lose your appetite. You will lock yourself in your room for days. Your heart will drop into the pit of your stomach at the very sound of his name. You will cry, and you will cry, and you will cry some more. The tears that you will experience will be well-earned. You loved him, and that is nothing to be ashamed of. It is okay to be sad, it is even okay to bawl until you physically can’t anymore. What is not okay to do is to tell yourself you won’t get through it.
I am going to let you in on a little secret: you will not be broken forever. You CAN live without him. I know you would rather have him by your side, but the honest truth is that you can’t. So, pick yourself up, and while you’re at it, learn to love yourself as well. Fall in love with your own ability to love others. No matter how much you don’t want to believe it right now, having the strength and the capacity to love somebody as much as you loved him is worth something. It is worth the world. Because someday, even if it is not him, you are going to find someone who is going to cherish that about you. And they are going to love you as much as you deserve to be loved, and more. So, please, believe me when I say this: this heartbreak that you are enduring right now is NOT the end. It is only the very beginning. It is the beginning to a beautiful journey of self discovery. Finding who you are as a person, finding the things you love to do, finding new friends, new hobbies, and finding love again. Except this time, that love will be from, and for, you. Fall in love with your life, and watch it blossom right before your eyes. You may feel broken now, but the pain is temporary. Life will fall into place only as you let it. Let the bad be bad, but let the good be especially good. You can, and you will, be okay.
