During your dating lifetime, you meet guys from every circle. Each guy is different, this is true. But the ones that you need to kick to the curb all show similar qualities, and should give you the same feeling.
Listen to your gut.
Women are blessed with this sort of sixth sense to where if something doesn't feel right, we know it in our gut. If we ignore this feeling we wind up regretting it in the long run. A guy can cause this feeling in several ways. Some of these include the way he texts, how affectionate he is, or how he meets your family (if he makes it that far). Your gut also is an excellent judge on the creep factor. I know most guys do not mean to be creepy but there are things that they do that sets this off. Just a tip guys: to make it past the “talking” phase, do not creep her out.
If your mama don’t like him, neither should you.
Everyone knows that your mom knows best. There have been countless times that my mom will say something about the guy I am seeing and I brush it off. This more times than none ends up with her saying “I told you so”. You learn pretty early on that your mom isn't out to get you or rain on your parade. Instead, maybe her gut reaction is just quicker than yours.
Your friends know you pretty well.
You have the friends you have for a reason, and sometimes they know you better than you know yourself. Being away at school, more times than not you introduce your potential bae to your friends before you do the “Meet the Parents” ritual. Think of your friends as a filter, only letting the good guys through to the next stage. Meeting the Parents is a bigger deal in college than it was in high school, so be thankful for friends who can filter through the duds in order to save your mother’s sanity. Listen to your friends when they get the creeper vibe from a guy. Your judgement may be clouded by his swoon-worthy smile.
He isn’t “simple”, he’s just not interested.
God made everyone different; different looks, different qualities, and different actions. Meeting guys you figure this out pretty quick. Each one is different and wants to be approached in a different way. Unfortunately, there are types of guys out there who claim to be “simple”. The “I’m a simple guy” stuff is just an excuse for the fact that he wants to put forth zero effort. Well, dude, if you want to put forth zero effort that is exactly what you are going to get out of it— nothing. Ladies, if you are looking for a simple guy, look for a guy who is too simple to claim that title and puts effort into the two-way street called a relationship.
We have nothing in common. Great.
Sometimes in a relationship opposites attract, and this is only about certain things. Let's say your new man loves to go rock climbing, but you are scared out of your mind of heights. That is alright, maybe he can help you get over your fear, and the two of you can grow closer because of it. The differences I am talking about is more along the moral standpoint.
For example; drinking, you might not believe in it but your partner loves to spend his Friday nights downtown making a fool of himself. He calls you around 3 a.m. asking for a ride. This is where your relationship can start to go downhill quick. It is healthy to be different individuals, but if you find yourself compromising your morals to save your relationship from going up in smoke, just let it burn. One should never have to compromise your personal beliefs to make something last, if it is meant to be, it will work.
Texting is a thing. Shocker… I know!
In this day and age, our phones are basically super glued to our hands. With that being said, texting is a thing, unfortunately. “Texting nonstop will kill a relationship before it even begins”, yeah no kidding. Girls want the sweet long text messages like the ones featured on Tumblr and Twitter, but unfortunately our potential Prince Charming’s only know how to use one consonant; “k”. If a guy wants to talk, he will call you; if a guy wants to take you out, he will ask; and if a guy wants to spend time with you, he will make an effort.
These are just a few of the many signs that a relationship has gone from golden to rotten. Depending on who you are dating, symptoms of a rotten relationship may vary. The main point to take away is even before all the obvious warning signs start flashing, you will know that said relationship is not meant to be. You have to be confident enough in yourself to listen to your gut and move on, and you will love yourself in the long run because of it.
