You Don't Need To Have (Or Stick To) A New Year's Resolution

If You Didn't Make (Or Stick To) A New Year's Resolution, That's Okay

Goals don't have to be an annual thing. If it's too much pressure for you, that's completely okay.


As each new year rolls around, there's always a chorus of "new year, new me" going around. For many people, it's easier to set a start date for change at the start of a new year. And that's completely okay. I'm glad people make these goals for the year and are very hopeful and determined to stick to them. But some people don't stick to them, or don't even make them, and that's completely okay, too.

If you have a certain way that you live your life, a certain schedule that you seem to stick to, that's sometimes really hard to break, no matter how much you might want to change it. Especially in the span of a few days, like from the end of December to the beginning of January. For this reason, some people decide to not even make resolutions for the New Year, knowing that it might not be possible to change as much as they wish to in the span of a year.

This is also the reason that some people slip up. For instance, a lot of resolutions typically involve wanting to lose weight, or just to be healthier in general. Sometimes this is a really hard thing to get into if you aren't used to dieting or working out often. In these cases, it's a little easier to accidentally slip up.

It's completely normal if you do. Don't feel bad, or like you won't ever be able to get to where you want to be, just because you had one off day, or maybe a few. Change takes time, sometimes much longer than a few short weeks at the beginning of a new year, or even sometimes longer than 365 days.

The term "New Year's Resolution" can put so much pressure on people. As if they need to meet their goal within the span of 365 days, or else they failed. Sometimes people get so caught up in this term attached to a personal goal that they just abandon it and simply say they'll wait until next year.

This is the reason why I haven't made any actual "New Year's Resolutions" this year. I usually do, saying the same things every time: lose weight, be healthier, learn to manage stress a little better. Then, when I slip up or don't stick to the plan in my head, I convince myself that I will never get there.

So, I tried a different approach this year. Instead, I'm simply making goals for myself. I'm not limiting it to 365 days, because if I do, that pressures me. Instead, I'm going to take each day at a time and make small steps to get to where I want to be. That's a lot less stressful for me. I still get to make my way towards my goals, but I can move at my own pace.

If you feel the same, that's totally fine. You don't have to do what everyone else seems to and make a yearly goal. You can make as many goals for yourself, or you can make none. If you want to change or make progress in some other aspect of your life, you should be able to do that at whatever pace you like.

Don't feel like you have to wait until January 1st to start that journey. And don't feel like it's over as soon as December 31st hits.

I'm proud of those of you who even make these goals for yourself and are determined to stick to them, even if you're not quite ready to start at the beginning of the year. If you are happy and comfortable in your life or simply don't see the point of making goals, I'm proud of you. To those of you who made resolutions and are sticking to them so far, I'm proud of you, too.

Keep doing you, at your own pace.

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To The Nursing Major During The Hardest Week Of The Year

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.


To the Nursing Major During Finals Week,

I know you're tired, I know you're stressed, and I know you feel like you can't go on. I know that no part of this seems fair, and I know you are by far the biggest critic of yourself. I know that you've thought about giving up. I know that you feel alone. I know that you wonder why in the world you chose one of the hardest college majors, especially on the days it leaves you feeling empty and broken.

But, I also know that you love nursing school. I know your eyes light up when you're with patients, and I know your heart races when you think of graduation. I know that you love the people that you're in school with, like truly, we're-all-in-this-together, family type of love. I know that you look at the older nurses with admiration, just hoping and praying that you will remain that calm and composed one day. I know that every time someone asks what your college major is that you beam with pride as you tell them it's nursing, and I know that your heart skips a beat knowing that you are making a difference.

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that a failed class doesn't mean you aren't meant to do this. I know that a 'C' on a test that you studied so. dang. hard. for does not mean that you are not intelligent. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.

I know that nursing school isn't fair. I know you wish it was easier. I know that some days you can't remember why it's worth it. I know you want to go out and have fun. I know that staying up until 1:00 A.M. doing paperwork, only to have to be up and at clinicals before the sun rises is not fair. I know that studying this much only to be failing the class is hard. I know you wish your friends and family understood. I know that this is difficult.

Nursing school isn't glamorous, with the white lab coat and stethoscope. Nursing school is crying, randomly and a lot. Nursing school is exhaustion. Nursing school is drinking so much coffee that you lose track. Nursing school is being so stressed that you can't eat. Nursing school is four cumulative finals jam-packed into one week that is enough to make you go insane.

But, nursing school is worth it. I know that when these assignments are turned in and finals are over, that you will find the motivation to keep going. I know that one good day of making a difference in a patient's life is worth a hundred bad days of nursing school.

Keep hanging in there, nursing majors. It'll all be worth it— this I know, for sure.

So, if you have a nursing major in your life, hug them and tell them that you're proud of them. Nursing school is tough, nursing school is scary, and nursing school is overwhelming; but a simple 'thank-you' from someone we love is all we need to keep going.


A third-year nursing student who knows

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The 7 Best Pieces Of Advice I Have Been Given About Life

Some of the best advice I have been given over the years...


There isn't a central theme among these pieces of advice or sayings. They are all just random things I have been told over the course of my life–especially in the last week. I find these 7 to be particularly helpful in various situations, and try to keep them in mind when I am in over my head.

1. "Don't be afraid to advocate for yourself because there is nobody who is going to help you more than you."

You are the #1 person who can help your own case. No one knows you as you do, therefore no one will be able to help you more than you can help yourself. A lot of things are mental, so once you can convince yourself that you deserve something (whatever it may be) you can convince anyone. Another saying goes along with this, on the flip side: "No one can diminish you but yourself." You are in control of your own self-perception, and you are very much capable of being your own worst enemy.

2. "Stand behind your reputation because you can never get it back."

My mom sent this to me the other day. Be who you are, and do it proudly. Especially with meeting people for the first time, you can never have a second chance at a first impression. That being said, if people view you in a bad light, figure out why that is and fix it. You may not be able to change someones initial thoughts of you, but you can change the way they view you after that.

3. "The best things in life happen unexpectedly."

"Life is what happens when you're busy making plans," also goes along with this. Trying to plan out every little detail of your life is only going to lead to disappointment. Sometimes you find the best things/what you're looking for when you're not actually looking. Just go through the motions and things will work out the way they are supposed to.

4. "Be proud of your accomplishments, no matter how small."

It's important to celebrate the little things. Did you go to class today? Good for you. Did you decide to drink water instead of a soda? That's awesome. How are you going to work up to doing bigger and better things if you don't have anywhere to start?

5. "Whatever you're stressing about now probably won't matter in five years."

As someone who is often eaten away by their own worry and anxiety, this is a mantra that I try to constantly remind myself. While it may seem like a big deal now, you need to keep in mind the bigger picture. Will it matter in 5 hours? 5 days? 5 months? And so on. If the answer is no to ANY of these questions, it's probably not worth beating yourself up over.

6. "Stop being the 'go to' person for someone you can't go to."

Someone tweeted that their pastor said this to them and the tweet went viral. A friend of mine sent it to me, and it really made me think. Something I have struggled with over the years is making excuses for people who don't show up for me when I am constantly there for them. This is a helpful reminder that if they aren't contributing to you and your life, you shouldn't have to bend over backward to help them out and be in their lives.

7. "Two wrongs don't make a right."

While this is often a saying that parents use on their young children, it is applicable to pretty much any stage of life. My parents, especially my dad, have constantly said this, whether it was in reference to fighting with my siblings or dealing with people at school. Even as a 20-year-old, I find myself saying this when I hear about arguments and problems people are having. Everyone wants to get even, to best those who hurt them. While it's important to stick up for yourself, it is also important to be the bigger person and not stoop to their level (and whatever else your parents told you in these situations).

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