You’re blasting the music on your iPod when that one song comes on shuffle. You know which one I am talking about. You are instantly caught up in flashbacks and memories of yourself and that one person you spent some happy times with that you no longer talk to. Soon after, the song ends and you feel that caving feeling in your chest, and your heart starts to feeling like it's breaking. You feel tears flowing down your face as you scroll down his social media pages, just to find him doing fine without you in his life.
Heartbreak isn’t all Tumblr quotes or Taylor Swift songs. We all deal with it at one point in our young lives. It’s not something we want to face, but it is almost unavoidable. That moment when that one person doesn’t want you anymore hurts and hurts a lot. But the most important thing to realize about having a broken heart is that you cannot dwell on it forever. Not only is it absolutely draining, but it is really unhealthy for your mind and soul. Keeping thoughts of him in the back of your head, hoping for things to go back to the way they were, is not going to change anything. But what is going to help you move on is the encouragement you give yourself to get through the pain.
It is perfectly OK to be angry or upset. It is OK to vent to your friends about how crazy he drives you to be, and it is also okay to spend hours watching Netflix and eating tons of ice cream to help you cope. Sleeping in all day and avoiding the world is not the way to solve your problem. Although it may feel as if you are facing the end of the world, there are a few things you need to remember.
They say time heals, and it does. But time can also cause agony and strain. If you keep telling yourself that you are going to get through the hurt, you know you are on the right track. When you realize you do not need that boy in your life anymore, that is when you know you are heading in the right direction. You cannot let a stupid breakup hold you back from enjoying your days to come. Slowly but surely, you will end up with another person on your mind, or even with no one on your mind. You do not need a guy to make you happy. I am not here to tell you that you are a “strong independent woman who don’t need no man,” but in a way, you really just need yourself because you and your happiness are more important than that stupid boy. In the end, heartbreak really does suck, but it has the ability to teach you to be who you are or who you are meant to be alone.
Just because this one relationship may have not worked out, does not mean you should stay in your room for the rest of your life and avoid everyone of the opposite sex. Heartbreak is a sign to keep moving forward until you find the one who really treats you right when the last guy didn’t. Do not let the failure of yesterday keep you from the success coming to you in the future. This is also where self reflection comes into play. Remember who you are. Stand your ground and know your worth. Do not let any boy define you and never, ever, ever go back to one who has caused you that pain, if they ever do happen to come back. You are better than that.
So, take that heartbreak, throw it to the side, and forget about the boy who you no longer want to be around. Find new distractions, new hobbies, and most importantly find peace with yourself. The pain ends. Because we are also so young, this is just the beginning. We young girls have so much time to experience the highs and lows in life. Don’t let one low keep you from the highs. It will all be okay; that is a promise.
