To the girl who deserves better friends.
You don't deserve to be treated as second best, the "tag me in that photo" kind of friend. Friendship is neither about the number of Instagram pictures your bestie has you tagged in, nor is it the number of text messages you have saved on your phone. Instead of lowering your standards, compromising for friends that are "kinda, sorta there for you," it might be time to trade in your friends for true ones.
If your friend claims that you and her "fight like sisters," get out now. Your friend shouldn't treat you like her sister, because we all know that sisterhood is far from perfect. Friends are not sisters, and shouldn't be treated as though they are. You deserve better.
Having a sister is a blessing but we all know that behind closed doors, sisters fight, yell and argue a lot more than friends should. Sisters are also forgiving, thankfully, but forgiveness can be given in friendship too. You deserve friends who are willing to forgive with grace, listen with intention and give their advice when needed. As much as your friends love to talk to you, they should love listening even more. A true friend respects your voice, knows your weaknesses and celebrates you victories; they don't envy what you have and complain about what they don't.
You are worthy of friends that accept your differences, and don't pick out your flaws. Friends shouldn't tell you what you can and cannot wear, although suggestions can be welcomed on occasion. If your friend makes plans without consulting you, claims you as a tag-a-long or pressures you to do something that is against your moral code, you need a new friend. Friendship takes hard work, communication and willingness in order to be more than just your "Friday night go-to." You don't just become best friends by being their #1 friend on Snapchat and your friendship certainly isn't determined by the familiar slogan "you are now friends are Facebook."
Friendship is an adventure, anything less is a waste of time. Find a friend that is willing to wake up at 5 a.m. to take you to the airport and stay out late into the night binge watching "High School Musical." You deserve more than a convenient friend, whose only motive is to fill their void when others are unavailable. True friends want nothing more than to spend their free time with you, because you are special and important to them. Friendship is being content in the silence and simply enjoying one another's presence. It shouldn't be forced or calculated.
Finally, you deserve a friend that prays for and with you. They lift you up when you are feeling down, they keep you accountable for your words, actions and thoughts and love you even when you are really unlovable. True friends don't walk out when life gets rocky, they climb with you.
You deserve better friends, go find them.
