Stop making excuses for someone just because you love them. Stop being there for people that are not there for you. Stop encouraging the behavior you know you do not want to happen. Just because you care about someone does not mean you have to go along with everything they say and do.
I have seen it head's on because I have been that girl. I have been that girl that has been in that relationship where she was manipulated by that boy who only wanted me to make himself look better and it made me look stupid.
Now, I see it firsthand through my friends and their relationships and there is only so much you can say before you get tired of hearing your own self talking. Just because you love someone does not give them the right to walk all over you. By doing this, you are allowing them to constantly disrespect you and you are telling them that it is okay to treat you the way that they are.
If you are crying yourself to sleep at night, he isn't the one. If he makes you wonder if he is telling the truth or not, he isn't the one. There is never any excuse for someone to be treated the way I see my friends and even myself be treated.
I often hear, "Well, maybe I deserve it because this one time I did this..." NO! Absolutely not. There is something very powerful in knowing and learning your worth and after you do, there is nothing that can stop you from getting what you truly deserve out of someone.
Stop making excuses for them just because you love them.
Let me tell you something if they are playing games with you, making you wait on them, making you think less of yourself or anything negative, they don't love you like they say you do. It is a difficult lesson to learn, but you need to let go.
You need to allow yourself to gain the love back you lost trying to give it to someone else. The right one will want it and take it for who you really are. It is okay to walk away.
It is okay to feel like you may have messed up somewhere along the way. It's okay to think you failed because you tried to "fix" them. You can't fix them. You can only help yourself. At the end of the day, is this really where you want to be in 5 years? Yelling, crying and being upset in a marriage you should have never gotten into in the first place?
Remember your worth. God didn't put you on this earth to settle for a mediocre guy that doesn't truly care about you, while you are more precious than rubies and jewels. You don't need a guy to make your life complete. Remember how special you really are. No one should ever be able to take that away from you.
"She is more precious than rubies. Nothing you desire can compare with her." Proverbs 3:15
This is far beyond just guys. It is how you are allowing strangers, co-workers, friends, family etc. to treat you. You don't have to stand for anything that you do not think is right. Once you treat yourself with respect, so will everyone else around you. Love yourself. You're important. You are worth it.
