We can't choose our family. But for many people, we wouldn't have picked a different one anyway. Sometimes family can drive us crazy. However, sometimes family can be our best friends, our greatest allies.
Every family has their own set of issues. Even if you had been able to pick your family, and you picked a different family, you would just be picking different issues from the ones you already had.
There are some families that have issues beyond explanation, families that are really hard to love. Families with abuse, drugs, criminal activity and other sorts of unacceptable issues. In those cases we have to hope that God will send a new family for the victims of those situations. In those situations you do get to pick your family, and that is a blessing. Hopefully you don't have to deal with that and you just have a crazy family.
My mom was the youngest of 10 kids, and my dad has a sister, most of which had kids, so I have a big family. And my aunts and uncles are definitely crazy. They are also fun, and we make each other laugh so hard, we cry. There is never a dull moment around my family. My family is also super incredible, accepting, loving people, that would take in anyone who needed them, even if they weren't related to us. So behind all the crazy, is absolute unconditional love.
After being part of a big family, my mom still decided to have a bunch of kids herself. I have three older sisters and a younger brother. And I wouldn't give up a single one of them. My siblings are my best friends. I know I can always tell them anything, and they will not judge me. In fact my sisters would not hesitate to kick some butt if it was necessary. And no matter what mistakes I make, my sisters will always have my back and always love me and help me when I need it.
My parents are also incredible people. They are divorced, but always there for me. Both of my parents are willing to go to the ends of the earth to give me what I need. They don't spoil me, because they don't want me to turn out rotten. But they do love me no matter what. I know that even 10 years from now, if I had no money and no place to live, I could always go back home. Not that I would want to do that because that's not a fun way to be an adult, but I know I could. They would never turn me away.
I do have family that I got to choose; and we got to choose to love each other. My step-mom never treated me like I was not one of her own kids. My step-sisters are my best friends. Actually, I got that dream that every little girl has where her best friend becomes her sister. My step-sister was my best friend, and because of our family circumstances, we were spending a lot of time together, which caused our parents to spend a lot of time together, which caused my dad and her mom to fall in love. I grew close with my other step-sister as well. And they are just my sisters and my mom, not my step-family.
Family can be crazy; but they are also the only people who will understand how crazy your family is. They will be the only people who can relate to you when you are talking about the craziness. They will love you unconditionally, and always be there for you when you need them.
