"She did not need much. Wanted very little. A kind word, sincerity, fresh air, clean water, a garden, kisses, books to read, sheltering arms, a cozy bed, and to love and be loved in return."
- Starra Neely Blade
If you read my last article, you know that I recently got out of a pretty serious relationship. Throughout our time together, I began to think of myself as needy in what I expected from him. Any little thing was always too much of an inconvenience. In fact, a lot of people, including my friends, began to identify me as "needy," too. When we broke up the first time, I told myself and everyone else it was because I was too "needy" and he was just more of an emotionally distant guy.
As I began to emotionally separate myself from the situation I became more aware that the word "needy" that everyone throws around as if it's a dirty word, isn't something that actually exists.
There is no such thing as being too "needy."
There is someone out there who is perfect for you. Someone who will do all the little things you need and deserve without you having to beg for it. If someone isn't willing to put in the effort a relationship needs or pay attention to the little things, then you have to decide if they're the right person for you or not.
If they're not, then that's okay. Just because you have high expectations doesn't make you needy. You need to know what you deserve and hold out for a man who can give you that. Know your worth.
You are worth good morning texts.
As trivial as it may sound, getting a text from someone as soon as they wake up feels nice. It means you're on their mind and they want you to know that. It's also not a hard thing for someone to do.
You are worth flowers on a rough day.
It doesn't have to cost buckets of money to make someone smile. A single rose or a favorite candy can brighten anyone's smile. And it's not even that girls love being spoiled, it's truly is the thought behind it that counts.
You are worth constant I love you's.
While the words "I'm sorry" if said too often can start to become meaningless, that doesn't happen to the words "I love you." Hearing your significant other say that while looking into your eyes can make all the bad times worth it.
You are worth someone who respects you.
Never mind being respected physically, as I think we all know and realize is important, it is important to find someone who respects your feelings. We can't always help how we feel or how situations or people affect us. It shouldn't matter. Even if it's something as ridiculous as the last candy bar being eaten. If you're upset, it should matter to the other person.
Your feelings are valid. Your expectations are not too high. You are not "needy." You are worth so much.
There is someone out there who can give you everything you need and so much more you never realized you wanted.
