I've always cared about others. Almost to a fault. I've changed my plans, sleeping habits, wasted my time and money on people that were not permanent. I still do this to this day. Though, I've learned a few things by now on the countless times I've made mistakes.

Here is a list of a few things you can do to save you time, heartbreak and yourself.

1. if you wanna say no or don't wanna do the thing...just don't do it! It's okay to say no, and it can be healthy.

2. Take some time to yourself. Do what makes you happy rather it be writing, singing, playing video games, spending time with family, ect...

3. If you're feeling overwhelmed about all the plans you have...you can cancel. This might seem like a bad thing to do, but you will feel so much better. You can have a good balance of taking care of yourself and social time.

4. Save that extra money for yourself. I don't know how many times I've "loaned" money to my friends and they suddenly stopped being my friend after. I’ve given my last dollars to people who didn’t feel the same about me. I would probably have enough money to buy a car by now.

5. Take a freaking bubble bath. In times of stress or anxiety the hot water mixed with some essential oils have made all my troubles go away.

6. Don't cancel the plans you already had for yourself to run to any friend/boyfriend/girlfriend or whatever to hang out with them. If they don't cancel plans for you, why cancel yours for them?

I could put more things down but I hope you see my point. YOU ARE IMPORTANT. Take care of yourself first and then everything will fall into place. Don't ignore what your gut is telling you. Listen to your heart and your mind. If something feels wrong, then it probably is. If you hesitate or think you wanna say no, then just say no.