Girl, oh, girl is it hard to be single. It seems like everywhere (literally- and I mean literally) you go, you run into gross couples, that seem to be "twitterpated". You start to question why the Universe is so against you by taunting you. You made the conscientious decision to be single for at least a year, and you were so proud of yourself. But as soon as you got to work the day after you made you that decision, you started to notice all of the couples that were everywhere. They're holding hands, making googly eyes at one another, giggling and seem so happy about their own decisions to be in a relationship. Then it starts. You know what I'm talking about- jealousy.

You start to question and doubt your decision. "Should I really be single for a year? What if I'm missing out on 'the one'? What if I already turned him down? What if my ex- no way could he have been 'the one', he was a complete jerk. An abusive jerk.. I'm hopeless."

You doubt yourself, and start to hate those who are in relationships. You start to put them down, to make yourself feel better. But none of that is going to make your life better. Maybe if you'd look up, shut up, stay still and close your eyes-- open your heart, and invite the Holy Spirit, you'd know that you already have a relationship going.

God wants to show you how GREAT His love is, and you're just so focused on finding your significant other. It sucks, I know. You're so ready to jump into a relationship, get married, and start makin' babies. I get it. But you have to be patient. You have to figure why you want all of those things. Have they been put on your heart by God, or because you see everyone else doing that and you want what they have? If it's the latter, you'll soon discover that not everyone is the same and no one's life is as perfect as it seems.

Love is such a beautiful thing, and a romantic relationship can be wonderful. But you can't want a relationship because you feel lonely (guilty). The only relationship that will make you feel whole is the one with God. Believe me, ladies (and men, too, I guess) this season of singleness is going to be one of the most struggling times of your life, mainly because you're putting yourself together, and figuring everything out. And if you're focusing on the Lord, sometimes (a lot of the time, actually) the enemy is going to throw a lot of curve balls at you. But you have to be willing to have God step up to the bat for you, and protect you from what the enemy is throwing at you. You can't strike out, cause that's exactly what Satan wants. You can't fall back into your old ways, cause you'll just become more miserable than before-- trust me.

I know that it isn't easy. I find myself crushing on some new guy, and initiate things with them like texting, and little dates. But then something within me (usually) says that this isn't how it's supposed to be, and that I can't keep hoping for something that isn't meant to be. Guys are meant to be the one to woo women. Men are supposed to pursue women. I know that that isn't how it is in society today- women are usually straight-forward and ask guys out. But those relationships typically don't work out because that isn't how it was meant to be.

Chivalry isn't dead either, it's just that the guys who are chivalrous are made fun of or some woman said that they'd rather open their own doors (again, guilty). But if man wants to pursue you, in a healthy respectful way, talk to God about it and allow it. Also, keep in mind that God is already in pursuit of you. He wants you to be dependent on Him, and to be in search of His own heart. He loves us all so very much, because He gave His only son to die for our sins. His love for us will never cease.

Society tells us that if we're single, we're weird. It's weird to not want an insignificant or short-lived relationship, apparently. It is also weird when a guy opens doors, pays for dinner, gives you his jacket when you're cold, and lends a hand off the curve- and he ISN'T expecting a sexual favor in return! Believe me, men like that are out there- the ones who have a heart for the Lord and know that women are precious. Women were taken from the rib of man- not from the dirt like man. We were meant to be protected, but also to support and to protect as ribs do.

In this season, don't be discouraged by those gross twitterpated happy couples. It's difficult, because you wonder if anyone could ever look at you that way or if you could ever be that happy. But, please (I know, I sound like a broken record) know that God already looks at you that way; and life with Him could make you more joyful than you ever imagined. Everyday is different, and life isn't easy at all... But take courage. Go out and love the way you want to be loved. Serve others, and don't expect anything- not even a "thank you". When you start to do all of this, you will no longer think about how devastating the single life is... Or you still will, but it won't feel so bad after some time.

You are a daughter of a King. Your Father wants to show you how you were meant to be treated; how you were meant to be loved. Let Him, let Him show you. Oh won't you?

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