As much as it may be hard to admit, every person has wished for a second chance at something at least once in his or her life. No matter how serious or little the thing may have been that you wanted to do over, you still replay a different outcome in your head if you were just given one more chance. I can honestly say that I have way to many scenarios in which I wish I had handled things better or done things differently or been more confident. However, looking back on things now, I ask myself, if I had the chance right now to go back and change things, would I?
The answer is I don't really know.
Most things are a definite no. Yes, I have made so many mistakes, but in those mistakes I have modeled myself to be the person I have become. I cannot stress enough how much our faults make us who we are. If I went back and did things differently, I would not have had any of the experiences and learned many of the lessons I have come to value as very important. I cannot thank my flaws enough for giving me the chance to learn from my mistakes and figure out how to make things better.
Sometimes I wonder if things had gone the way I wanted, would I be better off? I will never know, but I'm betting probably not. It's the hardships that make u stronger. If everything always went my way, I would never grow a thick skin and learn how to cope when life gets hard. I would not know the difference between real friends and ones that will come and go. I would not be able to distinguish a great opportunity from an awful one. I would never have learned right from wrong.
Nevertheless, there are certain things that I, without a doubt, would go back and change. Certain instances where I reacted badly to a situation or hurt someone else unintentionally, but it could have been avoided. Things like these scenarios I would love to have the chance to go back and change. Like most people, I hate disappointing others, so if I had the opportunity, I would handle things a lot differently.
However, what is done, is done. There is no way to go back and redo what has happened, well at least right now there's not, but who knows what the future brings! We all have to accept the damage we have done and move on with our lives. Most situations can be fixed in time and are reparable. The problems that are not fixable are the ones that provide the most insight and teach you the most about yourself and others. Without those lessons, you would not be the person you are, today. So be thankful for your mistakes! Looking back on everything in your life and where it has led you today, given the chance, would you do it over?
