Everyone knows that the honeymoon stage of a new relationship is amazing, fun and exciting. You are learning all about the other person and experiencing things with them that are new and different. This phase is also apparently the perfect time to ditch anyone who ever meant anything to you. Everyone knows what I am talking about here; the minute your BFF finds someone new, you don’t exist. This doesn’t just happen with boyfriends, girls leave their girls for some new chick and it is the same feeling.
The new person is so interesting and fun, but what happens when that relationship goes south? Who will you turn to? This has happened to me way too many times. Your girlfriend will fall off the face of the earth for a few weeks and suddenly her and her new BF/BFF get into a fight. Surprise surprise, she comes knocking on your door. Like, sorry, bitch, but where have you been? And oh yeah, I am doing fine thanks for asking. She will cry and cry about how hurt she is over this relationship but guaranteed she will not take any of your advice and tomorrow you are irrelevant again.
It is only natural to get territorial over your best friend and want to protect her but when is enough, enough? Don’t get me wrong, everyone deserves the chance to grow in their own relationships but the thing that gets to me is when things do not work out and she comes crawling back to you as if she did not throw you out like trash.
Everyone probably has had the conversation like, “We never hang out anymore, miss you!” Most girls understand that she doesn’t actually want to hang out, she just wants you to think she is making an effort. It can be hurtful when you spent all your time with your BFF and suddenly she is posting Instas with some new girl who she used to talk crap about, or when she ditches girl’s night to stay in with her bf.
But here is the thing, revenge is possible. You know all those times she only comes to you when she has a problem? And every time she ditches a night out? Eventually, you will stop responding, stop inviting her out. Why should you include her? She always says no and ends up hanging out with her new obsession. Eventually, she won’t have you to turn to anymore. I hear way too many girls complaining that they have no girlfriends anymore and I feel no sympathy for them. If you cannot balance relationships do not be in them. The honeymoon phase is amazing but when it does lasting damage, that is not cool.
Losing a BFF to a guy or girl sucks. There are only so many times you can be there for your friend before it is time for you to move on and find your own new obsession. Everyone deserves to be happy in whatever relationships they have, but do not forget about the ones who have been there for you even when you thought you didn’t need them.
