A Word To My Friends

A Word To My Friends

Thank You for Becoming My Family.

The Odyssey stands as a platform for voices to offer justified thoughts and ideas pertaining to the social, political, and personal worldview of individuals. Therefore, i’d like to use my platform as a means to express a justified matter. Instead of overwhelming readers with an additional topic of exhausting information regarding politics or upsetting headlines, I’d like to discuss one of the most imperative aspects of humanity and social dynamics: friendships. There are plenty of songs to go around to remind us just how important friendships can be, even television has provided adoring examples of how friends can make you laugh, cry, fume in frustration, and laugh all over again in the same breath.

Yet, the gratitude we feel for our friends is not always spoken aloud.

Truthfully, most friends, especially close ones, do not have to verbally express how they feel to one another to affirm the closeness of their bond. From that aspect, it appears that a friendship is stronger between people when words are unnecessary for feelings to be understood; however, as one of the most important relationships to develop within humanity, friendships deserve more outward acknowledgement to remind us all just how significant our friendships truly are.

If you think about it, friendships are the easiest relationships to conjure throughout the journey of life and often may be the most intimate relationships, maybe even more so than a romantic relationship with a partner. Of course, we are all born into our families without a choice in the matter and family can make for friendships, but friendships are the one relationship people establish that can last as long as the bond between family members. Meaning, though individuals develop relationships such as romantic endeavors, friendships are within the choosing of the individual and more than likely will last longer than any romantic relationship and may have more significance than a relationship between family members.

Personally, my closest friendships were formed in middle school, but like most when high school begins those early relationships are hindered as friends embark on different paths at different schools. In high school, lots of people knew me and I knew many people, but I was never close to my classmates in high school in the same way that I had been with my middle school classmates. This changed drastically when I started dancing on my current dance team about four years ago. Since then, in just the span of a few months, I've developed unbreakable bonds with the members of my dance team.

As of now, my dance team members have become an extension of my family.

No longer do I even consider them to be friends as they’ve nurtured me and accepted all my quirks and charming qualities in addition to teaching me how to love beyond the realm of my family and to nurture existing friendships that had been neglected over time due to distance and changing dynamics (separate schools, hobbies, conflicting schedules, and gaps in time). This in turn taught me how to become closer to other people and to develop friendships within other sects which has garnered me more “sisters” and “brothers” I can now call my family. From my friends, I've gained confidence within myself, learned to love strangers, and learned that I have more to offer to the world than I give myself credit for.

To my friends I say this:

Although, the advantage of friendship is that each individual is able to choose their friends, the true luxury of a friendship is realizing that friendships are not about searching for a flock to be a part of but realizing that the flock that you are meant to discover has been looking for you all along. An alternate family I've encompassed through each of you and the love I have for you all is abounding. Thank you for being in my life.



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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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To The Christian Girl Against Feminism, Religion Isn't An Excuse Not To Fight For Equality

Religion is not an excuse to not fight for feminism.


When I first read the article "I'm A Christian Girl And I'm Not A Feminist..." I thought it had to be a joke. Unfortunately, it was a sad reality.

I am a privileged white female. I came from a middle-class family with a law-enforcement father. I still am smart enough to realize we NEED intersectional, no strings attached, unconditional feminism. Anyone who disagrees is just wrong. In this case, the author is trying to base her outdated sexist beliefs on the Bible, and I am appalled.

At first, I thought it was a joke, I genuinely read the title out loud to my father and even he said it had to be a man pretending to be a woman. As I read the article I realized that sadly this is a girl who has had religion corrupt her life.

Religion can be a beautiful thing, it can change lives and give people hope that they need. I have heard countless stories about how finding a god has made people better, and that is incredible. However, using religion to say women don't deserve the same as men is absolutely absurd.

Part of me wants to scream in her face that she can't be ok with being a victim, another part of me wants to throw my hands up and give up on her and like-minded individuals. However, in a time like ours where women are coming so close to being equals, I can't sit down or act irrationally.

So here are the facts:

1. Women who work fulltime only make 77% of men's salaries on average. African American women only make 64 cents per dollar and Latina women only make 56 cents per dollar. Imagine being just as capable and trained just as well but a guy makes more money than you because he has a penis.

2. One in three women around the globe has experienced sexual violence. ONE IN EVERY THREE. YOU'RE SURROUNDED BY SURVIVORS. If women were considered equals that would not be the case.

3. Only 24% of high-level management positions are held by women. That's worldwide. 195 countries. Let that sink in. This isn't because women aren't smart either, 60% of all United States college degrees are awarded to women.

4. Women are not allowed to vote in many places, like Saudi Arabia or the Vatican. Imagine not having the right to vote! YOU GET NO SAY IN ANYTHING.

You can thank women for your right to work, vote, get an education, practice a religion that you chose, a range of professions, windshield wipers, bras, dishwashers, diapers, need I go on?

Women are strong as hell and your misinterpretation of an outdated book does not dimish all of the amazing things women have accomplished and will continue to accomplish.

To quote one bad bitch, "Power's not given to you. You have to take it." — Beyoncé Knowles Carter.

Now ladies let's get into our feminist formation and fight for our rights!

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