A Word To My Friends

A Word To My Friends

Thank You for Becoming My Family.

The Odyssey stands as a platform for voices to offer justified thoughts and ideas pertaining to the social, political, and personal worldview of individuals. Therefore, i’d like to use my platform as a means to express a justified matter. Instead of overwhelming readers with an additional topic of exhausting information regarding politics or upsetting headlines, I’d like to discuss one of the most imperative aspects of humanity and social dynamics: friendships. There are plenty of songs to go around to remind us just how important friendships can be, even television has provided adoring examples of how friends can make you laugh, cry, fume in frustration, and laugh all over again in the same breath.

Yet, the gratitude we feel for our friends is not always spoken aloud.

Truthfully, most friends, especially close ones, do not have to verbally express how they feel to one another to affirm the closeness of their bond. From that aspect, it appears that a friendship is stronger between people when words are unnecessary for feelings to be understood; however, as one of the most important relationships to develop within humanity, friendships deserve more outward acknowledgement to remind us all just how significant our friendships truly are.

If you think about it, friendships are the easiest relationships to conjure throughout the journey of life and often may be the most intimate relationships, maybe even more so than a romantic relationship with a partner. Of course, we are all born into our families without a choice in the matter and family can make for friendships, but friendships are the one relationship people establish that can last as long as the bond between family members. Meaning, though individuals develop relationships such as romantic endeavors, friendships are within the choosing of the individual and more than likely will last longer than any romantic relationship and may have more significance than a relationship between family members.

Personally, my closest friendships were formed in middle school, but like most when high school begins those early relationships are hindered as friends embark on different paths at different schools. In high school, lots of people knew me and I knew many people, but I was never close to my classmates in high school in the same way that I had been with my middle school classmates. This changed drastically when I started dancing on my current dance team about four years ago. Since then, in just the span of a few months, I've developed unbreakable bonds with the members of my dance team.

As of now, my dance team members have become an extension of my family.

No longer do I even consider them to be friends as they’ve nurtured me and accepted all my quirks and charming qualities in addition to teaching me how to love beyond the realm of my family and to nurture existing friendships that had been neglected over time due to distance and changing dynamics (separate schools, hobbies, conflicting schedules, and gaps in time). This in turn taught me how to become closer to other people and to develop friendships within other sects which has garnered me more “sisters” and “brothers” I can now call my family. From my friends, I've gained confidence within myself, learned to love strangers, and learned that I have more to offer to the world than I give myself credit for.

To my friends I say this:

Although, the advantage of friendship is that each individual is able to choose their friends, the true luxury of a friendship is realizing that friendships are not about searching for a flock to be a part of but realizing that the flock that you are meant to discover has been looking for you all along. An alternate family I've encompassed through each of you and the love I have for you all is abounding. Thank you for being in my life.



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To The Boy Who Will Love Me Next

If you can't understand these few things, leave before things get too involved

To the boy that will love me next, I need you to know and understand things about me and my past. The things I have been though not only have shaped the person I’ve become, but also sometimes controls my life. In the past I’ve been used, abused, and taken for granted, and I want something real this time. The guys before you were just boys; they didn’t know how to treat me until it was too late. They didn’t understand how to love me, until I broke my own heart. Before you truly decide to love me I want you to understand these things.

When I tell you something, please listen.

I’m my own person, I want to be loved a certain way. If I ask you to come over and watch movies with me please do it, if I ask for you to leave me alone for a few hours because it’s a girl’s night please do it. I don’t just say things to hear my own voice, I say things to you because it’s important to my life and the way I want to be loved. I’m not a needy person when it comes to being loved and cared for, but I do ask for you to do the small things that I am say.

Forgive my past.

My past is not a pretty brick road, it is a highway that has a bunch of potholes and cracks in it. I have a lot of baggage, and most of it you won’t understand. But don’t let my past decided whether you want to love me or not. My past has helped form who I am today, but it does not define who I am. My past experiences might try and make an appearance every once in a while, but I will not go back to that person I once was, I will not return to all that hurt I once went though. When I say those things, I’m telling the complete and honest truth. I relive my past every day, somethings haunt me and somethings are good reminds. But for you to love me, I need you to accept my past, present and future.

I’m just another bro to the other guys.

I have always hung out with boys, I don’t fit in with the girl groups. I have 10 close girlfriends, but the majority of my friends are guy, but don’t let this scare you. If I wanted to be with one of my guy friends I would already be with him, and if you haven’t noticed I don’t want them because I’m with you. I will not lose my friendships with all my guy friends to be able to stay with you. I will not cut off ties because you don’t like my guy friends. I have lost too many buddies because of my ex-boyfriends and I promised myself I wouldn’t do that again. If you don’t like how many guy friends I have you can leave now. Don’t bother trying to date me if you can accept the fact I’m just another bro.

I might be a badass, but I actually have a big heart.

To a lot of people I come off to be a very crazy and wild girl. I will agree I can be crazy and wild, but I’m more than that. I’m independent, caring, responsible, understanding, forgiving, and so such more type of woman. Many people think that I’m a badass because I don’t take any negatively from anyone. Just like we learned when we were younger, “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all.” Most people can’t do that in today’s world, so I stick up for myself and my friends. I don’t care what anyone thinks about me, or their option on how I live my life. The only thing I care about is being able to make myself happy. Even though I’m an independent woman, understand that I do have a big heart. Honesty when I truly care for someone I will do just about anything they ask, but don’t take advantage of this. Once you take advantage of this part of me, all respect will be lost for you.

I’m hard to love.

Sometimes I want to be cuddle and get attention, and sometimes I don’t want you to talk to me for a couple hours. Sometimes I want you to take me out for a nice meal, but sometimes I want a home cooked meal. Every day is different for me, sometimes I change my mind every hour. My mood swings are terrible on certain days, and on those days you should probably just ignore me. I’m not easy to love, so you’ll either be willing to find a way to love me, or you’ll walk out like so many others have.

I’m scared.

I’m scared to love someone again. I’ve been hurt, heartbroken, and beat to the ground in my past relationships. I want to believe you are different, I want to hope things will truly work out, but every relationship has always ended up the same way. I’m scared to trust someone, put my whole heart into them, just to be left and heartbroken again. I sick and tired of putting my whole body and soul into someone for them to just leave when it is convenient for them. If you want to love me, understand it won’t be easy for me to love you back.

When “I’m done.”

When I say “I’m done” I honestly don’t mean that I’m done. When I say that it means I need and want you to fight for me, show me why you want to be with me. I need you to prove that I’m worth it and there’s no one else but me. If I was truly done, I would just walk away, and not come back. So if I ever tell you, “I’m done,” tell me all the reasons why I’m truly not done.

For the boy who will love me next, the work is cut out for you, you just have to be willing to do it. I’m not like other girls, I am my own person, and I will need to be treated as such. For the boy that will love me next, don’t bother with me unless you really want to be with me. I don’t have time to waste on you if you aren’t going to try and make something out of us. To the boy who will love me next, the last thing I would like to say is good luck, I have faith in you.

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