If You Don't Respect Yourself Who Will?

Always Remember That No One Can Respect You If You Don't Respect Yourself

When you love yourself, you respect yourself.

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They say respect is not given, it's earned. And the same goes for respecting yourself. Way too often we're so concerned with others and how they view us that we forget the most important person of all: ourselves. Respecting yourself and your value is so incredibly important and too many people forget to do that. The truth is if you don't respect yourself, who will?

In the age of social media, there is constant pressure for us to keep up with this standard that isn't always realistic. It leads us to sacrifice ourselves to make ourselves cool. We're all constantly chasing that perfect Instagram pic, tons of likes, for that guy you've been crushing on to see your post. But in the process of all this, we are failing to respect ourselves, our genuine and authentic selves.

When you look through social media, you see girls editing their face and their bodies just to make themselves fit society's standard of beautiful and sexy. You see girls who don't feel good enough about themselves that they feel they have to create a fake perception to be accepted and to get affection. You see girls parading their bodies around because they feel like the only way to get a boy to like them is to show skin.

And that's not to say that doing this means you don't respect yourself. Because if you want to show off your body, then go do it, girl! But in some cases, we feel like we have to and we shouldn't. How we present ourselves should be a choice, not feel like we have to look a particular way to be accepted.

If wearing a bikini makes you feel sexy, do it. If putting a filter makes you say, "damn, I look good," do it. But remember do it while respecting yourself. Don't do it because you want approval. When you exploit yourself and change who you are for someone else, you're depreciating you've own self-worth and value. And that's something you should never do.

I'm sure you've heard the saying "don't put a bumper sticker on a Bentley." Well, you are a Bentley, and you deserve to be shown off for the beautiful person you are, inside and out. You don't need anything extra for people to know your worth and respect you. When you embrace yourself for who you are, you'll respect the person you are.

We all can relate to feelings of self-doubt and lack of confidence. But when those thoughts creep in, when they find their way to tear you down and make you feel like you have to be someone you're not or do something you might not be comfortable with, remember that you are worth so much more. When you love yourself, you respect yourself.

When I go to sleep at night, I was to feel proud of the person I am, be proud of what I've done. There's so much outside pressure on us, with school, with friends, with relationships. It hard to remember to take care of yourself. But if you won't respect yourself, how can you expect others to?

Give yourself the dignity you deserve, because you do deserve. You deserve to love yourself, your whole self, for exactly who you are.

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If You've Ever Been Called Overly-Emotional Or Too Sensitive, This Is For You

Despite what they have told you, it's a gift.
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Emotional: a word used often nowadays to insult someone for their sensitivity towards a multitude of things.

If you cry happy tears, you're emotional. If you express (even if it's in a healthy way) that something is bothering you, you're sensitive. If your hormones are in a funk and you just happen to be sad one day, you're emotional AND sensitive.

Let me tell you something that goes against everything people have probably ever told you. Being emotional and being sensitive are very, very good things. It's a gift. Your ability to empathize, sympathize, and sensitize yourself to your own situation and to others' situations is a true gift that many people don't possess, therefore many people do not understand.

Never let someone's negativity toward this gift of yours get you down. We are all guilty of bashing something that is unfamiliar to us: something that is different. But take pride in knowing God granted this special gift to you because He believes you will use it to make a difference someday, somehow.

This gift of yours was meant to be utilized. It would not be a part of you if you were not meant to use it. Because of this gift, you will change someone's life someday. You might be the only person that takes a little extra time to listen to someone's struggle when the rest of the world turns their backs. In a world where a six-figure income is a significant determinant in the career someone pursues, you might be one of the few who decides to donate your time for no income at all. You might be the first friend someone thinks to call when they get good news, simply because they know you will be happy for them. You might be an incredible mother who takes too much time to nurture and raise beautiful children who will one day change the world.

To feel everything with every single part of your being is a truly wonderful thing. You love harder. You smile bigger. You feel more. What a beautiful thing! Could you imagine being the opposite of these things? Insensitive and emotionless?? Both are unhealthy, both aren't nearly as satisfying, and neither will get you anywhere worth going in life.

Imagine how much richer your life is because you love other's so hard. It might mean more heartache, but the reward is always worth the risk. Imagine how much richer your life is because you are overly appreciative of the beauty a simple sunset brings. Imagine how much richer your life is because you can be moved to tears by the lessons of someone else's story.

Embrace every part of who you are and be just that 100%. There will be people who criticize you for the size of your heart. Feel sorry for them. There are people who are dishonest. There are people who are manipulative. There are people who are downright malicious. And the one thing people say to put you down is "you feel too much." Hmm..

Sounds like more of a compliment to me. Just sayin'.

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Being Ugly

What it means to me

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Due to a series of ongoing events throughout my semester, I've reconsidered what it means for someone to truly be ugly. Though it is often used in terms of appearance, I do not see it as such-- now more than ever. Ugliness runs deeper than appearance-- it runs within one's soul and festers into other areas of one's life, particularly in their treatment of others.

I view ugliness as someone's conscious capacity and implementation of malice. Taking time and energy out of your day to hurt someone else, that's what I view as ugly. Some offenses are more minor than others, however, it is still a conscious effort to hurt or affect someone else negatively-- and that's the source of the problem. I truly wonder what causes that sort of behavior in someone, as I, along with most people, simply do not invest time or energy into hating or plotting against others. It seems like a full-time job.

I can theorize all sorts of reasons as to why someone would act this way: hate, jealousy, vengeance, etc. Yet, all of these reasons don't hit the root reason. It almost seems that some people are just innately ugly in their soul. This alludes to the timeless debate of whether one's personality is due to nature or nurture. Again, although our surroundings and environment do have a large effect in our behavior, that alibi only goes so far when multiple people are placed in the same environment, in the same situation, and only some are willing to cross moral boundaries in order to hurt the others. Just because an environment applies pressure to people, does not mean everyone is going to act out in malice, and it certainly does not give everyone an excuse to do so. Some people are simply conniving and, well, ugly inside.

If you have ever encountered people like this, I know from personal experience that it is such a drag. You have an enemy, essentially, whether you chose to or not, however based on their hatred towards you, they are now considered an enemy, a hater, and any other associated term. Know that they will do anything in their power to bring you down, even if it requires bending the truth and creating elaborate schemes, but you have to keep on doing you. Let them obsess over ways to bring you down. At the end of the day, their time and energy is being invested into bringing you down, while yours is being used to build yourself up. They will fall by default. So, keep your head high, act in grace, and make your money. They can sip on their Haterade and watch from below.

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