I Will Not Let Overthinking Get The Best Of Me

I Will Not Let Overthinking Get The Best Of Me

Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times, if one remembers to turn on the light.

There are days when I wish there was a switch. A switch in my mind just to shut off the extra thoughts fluttering about, throwing things around that I don't necessarily need in my life. But the thing is, our mind isn't a room, and we can't just shut off the light when we are done with what we are doing, leaving it an empty room.

Our minds are always working and mine, unlike some, tends to work overtime in the thought process. Yes, we all have anxiety, but extra thoughts come into play that may not even be true. It's true that overthinking ruins you. It creates situations that are not there or play off of things that are happening, creating more stress and anxiety. It makes you worry more than you should and makes you scared in a sense.

What if this person/people don't like me?

What if I fail or failed that test?

What if I made a mistake?

The list could go on, but we all wish in these moments that we wish it was as simple as a switch.

In realizing that overthinking was doing more harm then good, I realized I wouldn't let it get the best of me.

In doing so, I realized that these thoughts of negativity have to be shut off, in some way, shape or form. It sounds cliché, but in wishing for a light switch to turn off the thoughts, I should have been wishing for a light switch to turn on to wipe away the thoughts. I realized that positivity, though it can be difficult, is really the only way to get rid of these thoughts. Whether it is music, friends, or watching a good movie, this switch can make the darkness disappear... and that is what anyone who overthinks has to remember.

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A Day In The Life Of A Girl Who Struggles With Anxiety

Anxiety affects different people in different ways, and does not define who they are.

Anxiety sucks. You never know when you'll feel it but, when you do, you TRULY feel it. You may not know this, but just because it's bad at one point and some people have extreme cases, it doesn't have to be the same for everyone. Anxiety is a disorder that effects different people in different ways, and does not define who they are. Here's what my daily routine looks like in a nutshell.

I wake up, eat, go to class, do homework...just average stuff. Every day goes on as normal, or as normal as it gets. What you don't see is that I'm constantly questioning myself and overthinking the simplest of actions.

Oftentimes, I struggle to hold a conversation with someone I'm not very familiar with because I'm scared I'll say the wrong thing that'll come back and bite me in the ass, or that the other person is not genuine and that they're gonna go behind my back and say nasty things about me.

Now I know that other people's behavior doesn't have any control over how I live my life, but I'm not going to deny that it hurts me emotionally. In fact, I use that emotional pain as motivation to go out and do my best. The best revenge in life is success. If someone else feels intimidated by how well I'm doing, then I know I'm doing something right.

But to make difficult situations slightly more bearable, I surround myself with close friends and others that I trust will have my best interest in the event something goes awry. Generally though, everything works itself out without calling for desperate measures.

Contrary to popular belief, living with anxiety doesn't mean that a person is constantly living through a panic time. A few times I may experience panic attacks, but they're usually mild and go away in time. My anxiety doesn't interrupt my daily life and doesn't keep me from doing the things I love.

Whenever it starts to, I always remind myself that everything happens for a reason and just because I don't feel well in one moment, doesn't mean that I'm always going to feel that way. It usually subsides rather quickly.

I am not defined by my anxiety, and in fact having anxiety helps me be more aware of my surroundings and to be more considerate of others. Whenever someone else has an issue, I will listen to them and help them calm down. My experience allows me to be more empathetic towards people and to be of assistance to them in ways others cannot. Anxiety attacks are really uncomfortable, but they don't go on endlessly. Like Axl Rose sings, "Nothing lasts forever in the cold November rain".

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A Beginner's Guide To Self-Remedy, Take Some Time For Yourself

Take care, friends.

On a cramped up spring semester schedule filled to the absolute brim with classes, coursework, community or public service work, internships or jobs, extracurriculars, and more, it can seem completely impossible to accomplish everything you want to or have time to take just for yourself or building and strengthening friendships. How can you even quantify the amount of pressure pent up in your shoulders or fathom how you are going to deliberately keep each section of your work/thought within its own compartment in your brain?

Slow down, sip some tea, and provide yourself a moment to grab hold of a more meditative headspace.

You are not the only one who is feeling this way nor does fretting about your anxieties do you any good. The reality stands regardless of how much you worry that there is much to be done about controlling your stress levels and holding yourself down.

Last week, I explained the immense importance of self-love, recognizing your worth and taking proper steps to actively reassure yourself how capable and incredible you are. This week, I want to touch on how to better keep your mind in check with tons of optimal little daily acts that will help your feet remain firmly planted on the ground and aid your mind in lending you a little more zen.

Food and water are a fantastic start. And no, I am not condoning stress-eating here, but what I am suggesting is that you pay attention to your basic human needs. Drinking water and eating things that are good for you (yes, in controlled portions dark chocolate counts, or if you are my mom, red wine is fine) will not only provide you with the actual energy your body requires to make it through the day, but while you are actively eating is a good time to resort to a “brain break”.

This can be daydreaming, watching an episode of your favorite Netflix show, listening to music, or whatever else you need it to be. Exercise, at least 30 minutes a minimum of five times per week and the proper amount of sleep ~8 hours depending on your body for the majority of adolescents and adults (fun fact: you need about six hours of sleep bare minimum for your brain to be fully functioning) will also encourage relaxation and harmony within the body and mind.

Bear in mind that physical activity can be invigorating and exciting as well, perhaps you enjoy running, pilates, yoga, swimming, or a specific sport.

Hands-on activities can also suffice as an extremely valuable way to practice self-care! You can paint, draw, color, or write, and there isn’t even a prerequisite for skill level for engaging in these art therapies. A prayer box or meditation can also be helpful. Essential oil diffusers and soothing music can also be therapeutic if you are capable of producing music on your own accord, even better.

Truthfully, there are no wrong ways to self-remedy. Perhaps one of the best solutions I’ve found is taking a twenty-minute break a couple of times daily to just be with myself doing any of these things and engaging in at least one fulfilling, meaningful conversation with someone of value to me.

Believe me, words can help! And if you don’t know whom to speak with, counselors and therapists are readily available to college students who need them --which one you would visit would depend upon where your stressors are stemming from.

As you have noticed by now, there are hundreds of thousands of ways to practice self-care/therapy, including even just listening to your friends when they are experiencing a rough day, this is because going out of your way to help others or simply engaging in a few random acts of kindness should lighten up your own mood, it feels good to make other people feel good, it should be obvious because it’s simple psychology. Take care friends!

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