I've heard it way too many times. "You're great. I like you, but this isn't everyone's business." Let me also preface this article with the fact that I agree that all of the details of a relationship are not for everyone to read on social media, or gossip about. An adult relationship absolutely requires some privacy.

However, I don't want to be hidden. I don't want to see that your posting things on social media with other people repeating, but not with me. If I'm not worth telling people about then you're not worth pursuing.

The word side-chick comes to mind when I think about this behavior and the feeling of being hidden. Which, in fact, are two of the most annoying words I've heard paired together. You're cheating if you have a "main-chick" and a "side-chick."

I'm not flattered that you spend more time, money, or energy on me if you are still seeing other people behind my back. It's perfectly fine to be seeing other people if we haven't established we are exclusive. However, if we have then you need to walk out of my life with that manipulative garbage.

When someone won't change their relationship status, I do question it. Sure, it may sound petty, but why is it considered petty? If you didn't want a relationship then don't get in one. Don't attempt to use love to gain something you want from someone. There are plenty of people you can give and receive lust from.

If I want to be a part of that I'll let you know, but there is no reason to lie about what you want. There is no shame in wanting what you want as long as it is not hurting anyone else.

If you are being forced into a relationship then seek some help, but in most cases, you just want to have your cake and eat it too. This is not just about hurting people's feelings.

It is about someone planning a life with a person, putting things on hold to make their relationship work, finding a job after graduation near where their significant other lives just to find out that the entire relationship was only organized so the other person could gain something from the other. Status, sex, money, etc.

All I ask is that when we are out at a beautiful sunset and take a picture is that I'm "allowed" to post without you caring so much about what others think. If you're not willing to let me tag you in memes, or comment nice things on your pictures then I don't want you.

I am not asking for your undivided attention twenty-four seven, and I that I would not be ok with you posting that you are with your friends. I just don't want to be excluded from your friends or just be one wedge of your life you keep separate from everyone.