Do people ever ask you why you always go back to that guy that hurt you before? You know who I'm talking about- the one who drifted away from you, who began to ignore your texts, who reached out to you only when it was convenient for him? Your friends will sit there and watch him tear you apart, but on a Thursday afternoon you'll get a "hey what are you doing tonight" text and be overjoyed because "he really wants to hang out with you".
No, he doesn't, but hey, believe what you want.
Your friends can't believe you are doing this again, but here we go, back down this long, bumpy road that never really makes sense, especially nowadays. You're lucky that they are always there for you, because if they weren't.... well, you know.
So, ladies, why do we go back when we know the end result?
We go back because it's comfortable. He told us he loved us before, so he must mean it now. Whenever someone says they love you, they'll mean it now and forever, right? No, not right. Just because it's a word that you don't toss around, doesn't mean other people won't use it because they think it sounds like something good to say. You can't expect people to hold themselves to the same standards that you hold your self to, especially when it comes to relationships. Mama didn't raise everyone right.
He's introduced us to his friends before. If we meet his friends, he must be serious about us. News flash ladies, guys actually have a game they play within their friend groups as to who can get the most girls. By introducing you to his friends, all he is doing is just validating your name on the list. He has to make sure he gets his credit for his little game.
We go back because we don't want to get to know anyone else. Meeting a new person and finding out their secrets, fears, and details of their lives is exhausting. It takes time and a lot of effort that we really don't feel like giving. So, even though the boy we are going back to is a jerk, at least we know most of the aspects of his life. And, I must admit, truly knowing someone is an awesome feeling, even if he isn't the nicest person anymore.
I know how easy it is to go back, but you just can't. Know that there is always more, there are greater things ahead in your future, and you won't be able to see those if you dont have a clear view of them. Don't always do what is easy, but do what is right, and you'll see how well life will reward you. Once you realize you should only allow yourself to go up, you'll be a much happier person. Promise.
